Post # 47
Not bashing you or anything, but I feel like your finding every excuse NOT to go…. If this person is rrally that important to you, you would take a train, plain, submarine to get there. This is something that if you miss, can’t be witnessed again.. And may bring tension between you two.
Post # 48
You’re already busy and it sounds inconvenient for you. It also doesn’t sound like you especially want to go. For all those reasons, I’d skip it.
Post # 49
I initially thought you were in the US and was going to say “Go! Don’t even think twice!”. But seeing you’re in Australia, I would really think carefully about it. Is there any point you going- will you be able to be a help organising things, will you actually be sociable at the reception etc?
When I flew to Australia from London, it took me a good two days or so after touchdown to feel even vaguely human again, and at least a week until I could function at normal hours without being slightly spacey and sleepy. Factoring in four days travel time there and back (2 days each way with the time difference, assuming you can get early morning flights) and a day or two recovery, I don’t think I would personally go.
Your friend should definitely understand if you can’t make it. If I were to get married in Australia, I wouldn’t even entirely expect my parents to show up, nevermind my friends! If you didn’t work and had the money then it would be more reasonable, as you could make a decent trip of it. But she can’t seriously expect you to fly around the world and back for her wedding, if she knows you have a week off work and that includes travelling time.