(Closed) bestman/ best friends pulling out of wedding

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1432 posts
Bumble bee

I’m a little confused, a skimmed a little so sorry if I just missed you saying this but did they actually tell you they can’t make it or are you guys assuming they are going to cancel because they mentioned that the family party is the same weekend?

If you are just assuming that they are going to pull out of the wedding, don’t! It doesn’t help stressing about it if you aren’t sure its going to happen. If you are really loosing sleep over it have your Fiance just come straight out and ask. ” Hey I am really worried that you may decide to skip our wedding to go to the anniversary party.  ” and go from there.

If they did in fact already tell you they can’t come then that is pretty horrible of his best friend to do. But they obviously have a lot going on right now and it just seems that the friendship is 1 sided and your fiance is a much better friend to them then they are to him. Not making a friendship a priority is a shame. Its a hard lesson to learn that a friendship is growing a part after so many years.

Post # 6
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1432 posts
Bumble bee

@skellynet:  Yeah I know what you mean about not wanting to guilt someone into coming to your wedding when they would rather be elsewhere..  They will most likely wish they hadn’t missed your wedding especially if her family is in and out of her life and you guys have been there for a long time.  It seems like the BM was uncomfortable and probably wishes he could go, it is most likely her that wants to go to the party instead. Sorry for the crappy situation!

Post # 8
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3302 posts
Sugar bee

I also think they aren’t going to show. Just be there to support your hubby. If they flake on him, he will need your love and support the most.

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