(Closed) Better late than never?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee

@Daizy914:  Good for you! I don’t understand why people don’t think about those as much anymore. I mean I seriously think of this girl not sending a card so often. Maybe it’s just me being unreasonable about it LOL, but whenever my SO and I talk about that couple the first thing we mention is never getting a thank you, so I think it’s definitely something people want to receive! My overactive mind always thinks that they did send out cards, but didn’t like our gift (no registry), so they didn’t send one! LOL. I haven’t gotten married yet, but when I had my graduation party I sent out cards like less than a week later. It didn’t matter if someone only gave me $5, they got a personal card with a thank you. One of my cousins had a baby shower, bragged on Facebook about how she got so many things that she ended up donating some, and then never sent out a card. I just get so frustrated! Like I obviously spent at least an hour to drive to the store, pick out a gift, wrap it, etc. and you can’t even spend 5 minutes to write, “hey thanks!” 

Post # 48
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6524 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@beetee123:  No you are NOT unreasonable!!!

Its beyond rude to not send one. I mean you go to a wedding, you give a generous gift and then dont get a thank you? Its a slap in the face. 

For my bridal shower, it was on a saturday. As soon as I got home I put all the gifts away. Wrote my thank you’s abd sent them out Monday morning! It was only 40 thank you’s but I had people call me to tell me that my thank you was the fastest response they ever received. I was proud lol

 

Post # 49
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11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@helpmeplease29:  send them out ASAP. Better late then never and 4 months isn’t horrible. Id be more concerned about the fact your husband refused to help especially in your time of need!

Post # 50
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee

@Daizy914:  Yes! Those are the things I live for. I got a response to one of my thank you cards just saying how nice it was to actually receive one from someone my age since we don’t usually think about that apparently. All I got was money from everyone for my graduation, which was GREAT, but I feel like if I don’t get a thank you note, especially for a physical gift, then the gift isn’t actually appreciated. I’m going to feel like it got shoved on a shelf, which is hard for me because I’m the kind of person who spends MONTHS agonizing over what gift I’m going to buy for people. Christmas shopping for me starts by September 25th at the latest. I’m terrible, but I feel like I work so hard on these things and they go unnoticed. 

Post # 51
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6524 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@beetee123:  Lol I feel like im talking to my twin right now. Im the same way. I make my christmas lists for my friends and family in the summer and go shopping in oct!! Hahahah

yay! Im not the only “crazy” one

Post # 52
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee

@Daizy914:  No, you’re not! I’m the person who literally doesn’t care what I get for Christmas. I almost never have anything I want although it does kind of upset me when I put so much effort into a Christmas gift for someone, and then they slap a $10 giftcard on the table for a store that I don’t even really like. I just make lists throughout the year of what I’m going to get so and so. I am even so bad that I come up with multiple gifts for one person, so for example, I have my dad’s gifts planned out for the next 2-3 years…LOL

Post # 53
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6524 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@beetee123:  Thats awesome

my Father-In-Law abd Mother-In-Law are the hardest people to shop for. I literally think about things to get them all.year.long

they spoil themselves so when they want something they get it immediately! Lol

and I never ask for anything. Im more excited about sseeingtheir expression when I give them their gift. Especially my niece and nephew. 

Post # 54
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58 posts
Worker bee

I’ve received thankyou cards six or seven months after the fact.

On the odd occasion it occurred to me to wonder about it, I was only concerned that something had gone amiss with my gift and they hadn’t received it, or didn’t know it was from me.

Don’t feed the black dog. You have every reason to focus on you right now, and no reason to beat yourself up about late cards. Take your time with them.

If people have the nerve to ask why they’re so late, just tell them it was really important to you to make each card personal, so they took you a while.

 

If you are really worried, you could do what a friend of mine whose cards were very late did. By the time she got around to sending them, her professional photos were in. Enclosed with the card, she included a photo that we’d taken together on the night. It was a really nice touch.

Post # 55
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee

@Daizy914:  Yeah, I love thoughtful gifts, and I am definitely happier spoiling everyone else. I’d rather get no gift at all than something that is just thrown together last minute!

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