Post # 1
SO has been especially furtive at times and apparently planned something that would make me really happy for this Friday. He’s not subtle – so I thought it was ring shopping NOPE ring browsing. This jewellery store is too fancy to go in without the intention of buying anything. I suggested he browsed on the website instead. Admittedly I don’t even want to go ring shopping because I want a surprise.
Lately he has overemphasised the anniversary and for months talked about how he had a big surprise so I had been really excited thinking that’s that but nope it was a hotel room booked. I have a race the next day..I would rather be in my own bed. He knows hotels are a treat for him. I’d always rather be in my own bed regardless.
At a wedding recently he said to people to keep July 1st 2017 free yet when questioned he said he was only joking. We went to look at our venue informally. He keeps putting his last name onto mine when talking.
YET he’s too immature and not ready!
So to distract myself I’m bettering me. I’m planning to:
* get more sleep- I’d always stay up midnight texting him despite half ten being the optimum time for me.
* I’m tempted to look into sign language courses.
* spend more time with university friends and church friends.
* Volunteer more.
* read more.
* run and gym more
*I’m going to bake more recipes and cook more exciting dishes for myself.
* I’m going to massively declutter this summer.
What are your plans?
Post # 2
It is great that you are bettering yourself! Regardless of waiting or not it is always a great idea to have goals to improve yourself.
I only question a store being too nice to go into with purchasing? That is odd. Do not be intimidated, many people browse high end stores. I love shopping online but it is not always the best source to find a ring. It is much easier to see it in person.
Post # 3
Are you Ok with his seeming “fake hints” at a proposal? I can’t tell from your post whether these are lighthearted or make you feel bad. He seems to be teasing you and getting your expectations up, only to let you down.
As for self improvement: always a great idea. Sounds boring, but I adore decluttering. Have you read, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up”? Great way to start.
Post # 4
I am throwing myself into my last two CPA exams and then going to start Zumba with the intent on losing 30 pounds and toning. I will also start hanging out with my friends more and being more active outside my relationship.
Post # 5
theatrejulia : it’s probably self esteem issues make me reluctant to look in high end stores. It’s stupid though.
mimivac : He’s genuinely an oblivious guy and he’s now apologetic for disappointing me. I think a factor is that both sides of the family keep asking when is going to propose so that makes it worse and probably more resolute into not asking. He likes to prove people wrong.
I’ve heard about that book so will see if my library has it.
armychica06 : That’s great that you’re doing all this for your benefit.
Post # 6
so i knew there was a propsal coming for about six months. let me tell you, it was so hard to wait. it consumed my mind and my every thought. I knew it was coming cuz he had an ultimatum. i picked out the ring and after that still had to wait two months! insanity!!!!!!!!! now, after all that waiting, now i have to wait to start planning the wedding. His parents i guess are paying for alot of the wedding and they said well start planning in september, we got engaged in may. can you imagine the torture? Im resentful of his mom making me wait, but if she is going to $ then i will get over it. what can you do? all we can do is wait, but not too long!!!
Post # 7
sharona216 : I think waiting only intensifies after the ring purchase. This sounds cheeky but can you do all your researching and planning such as checking available dates and just put money down in September? Why is she making you wait? 😮 congrats on the engagement though.
Post # 8
becks90 : no i cant anything cuz i dont know what the budget is. my hands are tied completely. ive added things to my pintrest board but thats all i can do right now. i dont know if im plannig for a wedding with a $30,000 budget or with a $60,000 budget. no idea! i cant even bring it up till then, although in august when i see her im asking her ” so well start planning next month”? theres a reason shes making me wait, too perosnal to share :/ thanks 🙂 i know your will happen soon, just focus on u, work out, save money and itll go by!