- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
I don’t see the FB post anymore. Good on ya if you deleted it, OP.
Sorry OP, I saw this advertisment as well. I 100% assumed it was for a woman who was in the military, active duty, reserves etc… You play a great role in being a military spouse, but you do not serve in the military.
I have lots of respect for military spouses, you are great and a lot of active duty memmbers could not do what they do without your support. But I can 100% see why AA would only allow this special for actual military members. A lot of veterans day deals are only for the actual veteran themselves.
I think it didn’t hurt inquiring to see if you qualify, and their customer service may have treated you poorly, but as a veteran myself I think your actions are just as rude. You are attacking their company because you are upset you don’t qualify for a promotion. You are not in the military.
I think their promotion is wonderful, not to make their company “look good”. They could do that with just a % off a dress. You fighting this is making military spouses look bad. I’m not trying to be rude, just telling you the truth. I’m not even touching on the fact that you are ALREADY MARRIED. I get it, I had a courthouse wedding as well. My husband and I were both deploying soon, and didn’t have much time.
I think their offer is extremely generous, and will continue to pass along the advertisiment to my active duty friends.
This is why military spouses have horrible stereotypes.
Please stop. I don’t mean it rudely, but genuinely. Please stop.
If you are a student, focus on your education. If you work, take pride in your own career. If you are bored, please go volunteer. I’d suggest Fisher House or the VA. Go speak with people who really have served. Learn from them and their stories. Then please recognize that you do.not.serve.
You are a spouse. You support. You love. You follow. You encourage. You praise. You strengthen. You wait. You hold on.
You would (hopefully) do all of the above regardless if your spouse be a soldier or a plumber or a teacher. Because you are a spouse. And that is what spouses do.
Military families are VERY well cared for. We receive more help than most and we do not deserve it. We have guaranteed housing, amazing medical benefits, and loads of support. Please realize what a blessing it is to be part of such an adventurous and strong community. Please thank God every night for the many privileges we are given that we do not work for nor earn. Do not complain about or grieve the loss of offers that you do not deserve. This company is doing amazing things for women. Women who really do serve. So please, just stop. You’re making the rest of us look bad 😒
As far as if my ID would give me clearance, actually for what I do I do get clearances. Not with my dependent ID but through my work. I studied hard to get where I am. (I am what my title implies, a doctoral student with a Masters degree). I could make more money in private industry. My work gives me access to intelligence when I choose to work on that kind of stuff. The military needs experts like me on the outside in Universities for some operations. Part of the reason I chose to do what I do is to be of the best service I can. And trust me, private industry is very tempting when there’s school debt and a husband to be closer to. I wasn’t money motivated. One of my collegues actually just took a postion that only accepts 2 people into it a year for the military in this type of work. That’s a little bit about me as a person. But that’s not the point. The point is that I called on a misleading ad. Was offered what the ad promised, then had that changed, called for clarification and was blasted. The way I was treated was really inhumane. Honestly, I’ve never talked to anyone that way in my life. My aim is to let others know how I was treated. I’m VERY concerned about a military women getting a free dress and feeling so appreciated that she decides to buy other things from this company, and then gets their bad service. When I searched other reviews of this company they were pretty bad! I feel like the company did this to try and lift their image, to try and make it look like they’re donating so much that they must be a good company. But if they truly cared, the person should not have sworn at me on the phone like that. If they want to be a good company they need to learn how to respect people.
I did think about what you said about dependents getting a dress for a child, but, there’s no real regulation so there are lots of ways people can lie. There can be a lot of who deserves it more points that could be made but that’s not what I want to argue (Such as does a military child that has 2 parents that served for 20 plus years deserve it more than a person that only served 2 years and didn’t see battle). These kinds of arguements are not the point. This is really not what I’m trying to convey. I’m not arguing entitlement at all.The ad is very vague for all they are trying to imply. Getting into technical stuff, you have to think about discrimination too. What if an active or vet male considered themself a bride and wanted a dress. According to discrimintion stuff they shouldn’t be able to screen out homosexuals (LGBTQ) people. I can’t honestly say that they wouldn’t because they seem to be implying military women yet the ad doesn’t say that anywhere. The ad just says “Military Brides”. AND I’m not trying to start a war about gay rights, I’m just saying that could happen the way the ad is worded with the law including gay rights now. This is not about if LGBTQ marriage is right or anything like that. Just a loop hole in the ad, I’m pointing out.
What I am arguing is just that the company did not act respectful. They posted a misleading ad. And behaved in a way that shouldn’t happen to anyone. As upset as I am over the way I was treated, I honestly don’t know if I could accept a free dress from this company. I’m certianly not asking for one now. Wearing that dress would remind me of all that person said on the phone, and that’s not what I want to think about if I ever wear a dress. BUT, service members should think twice before they purchanse something from these people. They don’t do anything to correct their mistakes, even by just apologizing. I have to believe all the negative reviews about this company based on my experience and not seeing any BBB rating on their page. I want other people to know about this and they can decide if they want to make a purchase then. If people don’t post about bad companies, others could experience the same bad service.
Can we get this closed? I can’t read anymore entitled bullshit. I’ve reached my limit for the day. 😨
Navy wife here: I can’t believe this thread is real. It makes me and my sisters (and brothers!) look terrible.
If you think the company reacted rudely, I can’t really argue that. You’re free to feel how you feel. I didn’t think the advertisement was misleading. Not even a little. What do they call women like this? Dependistas? This makes me so incredibly sad.
ETA: I’d call Tricare anything but “amazing healthcare.”
The way I was treated was really inhumane.
Inhumane? Really? If someone speaking rudely to you meets your definition of inhumane, you’ve really lived a privileged life. There are a lot of inhumane things going on in the world right now to many, many people and none of them involve a wedding dress. Maybe try keeping some perspective.
How about you run this past your husband’s CO and see what they think about your service?
Also, you brought up LGBTQ rights for no reason at all, and must have forgotten that you already told us this in your OP: “I was told that my husband could get a dress for me if he came in and got fitted“. So there goes that pretend argument.
Give it up.
Your writing makes my brain hurt. I do not believe that you’re in an accredited doctoral program.
If you really were a “military women,” as you said, you wouldn’t be so offended by someone speaking slightly disrespectifully to you. You had a drill sergeant; you were in basic training, right? You served, so you know what it’s like to be yelled at by your commanding officer.
Rather than maintain this diatribe against Alfred Angelo, I suggest you acknowledge your own role in this mess, even if only to yourself. Then move on.
Would your husband be proud of your actions? No? Exactly. Just stop.
you have to think about discrimination too. What if an active or vet male considered themself a bride and wanted a dress. Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/beware-alfred-angelobad-company1/#ixzz3qDFFm8io
don’t try and straw man your way out of looking shallow. You made it clear in your OP that the AA sales rep said if your husband wanted to come get a dress he could! The caveat is that you actually have to be military. It’s their generous offer, so they get to make the rules. I mean, if they wanted to make it so it was only active military or vets who were wearing uniforms into the store they could. Or only blondes named Kelli they could. How dare they decide who they want to give away free dresses to! The nerve!
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