Post # 17
Okay, I actually faced a similar situation. Brother-In-Law wanted to wear his uniform (complete with his cape) and I was afraid it would take the attention away from DH because he’s kind of the quiet one in the family and I didn’t want him to be overshadowed on his wedding day.
I’ll freely admit, if it was my fifth wedding, I’m not sure how much I would care! Also, he didn’t have to wear his at all, which was another factor. It did lead to him declining to be best man and instead he was a groomsman.
But…anyway…for another perspective on this, here’s the thread!
Do you have to let military groomsmen wear their dress uniforms?
Post # 18
Thank you for that link. I read that thread with quite a bit of bewilderment. I guess, I never understood the “it’s my wedding, and I have to be the centre of attention” mentality. I never saw my wedding as “my day.” It was just as much for our families and friends, as it was for my husband and for me.
My advice to the lady who posted there would be to let them wear their uniforms! My husband is an officer in the U.S. Navy, but we are not Americans (well, my husband technically is, but having grown up in the UK, he was socialised as a Brit, and speaks, thinks and acts more like an Englishman than anything else), so my frame of reference is quite different. He also serves as a liaison with the Royal Navy, so we are more familiar with that angle.
Of course, I do not really see the point of matching wedding parties at all. I had one chief bridesmaid, and three little bridesmaids whose dresses were white (made of silk, so not pure white) with coloured sashes. I let each child pick her favourite colour for the sash, because I wanted them to feel involved. One also wanted a ruffle at her skirt. My chief bridesmaid wore blue. I had all the dresses tailored, and of course, paid for them. I gather that I just have a very different outlook, but my sister-in-law truly drives me up the wall. She is the most selfish person I have ever encountered.
Fortunately, husband-to-be #5 is not a complete tosser, and showed some gumption. He told her that if she wants to marry him, she will just have to accept the fact that his brother will come in dress whites. Alternatively, he suggested a simple courthouse ceremony with two witnesses :-). He is paying for all this, and it looks like he had enough. I rather like the man, even though I’ve never met him.
Post # 19
It’s not like he’s wearing it just because he wants to and being an a-hole about it…he’s wearing it because he HAS to. If I were her fiance I would take this as a sign of things to come! Although I would have probably thought twice about marrying someone who has already been married four times before forty…
Post # 20
Funny comment, I laughed.
Post # 21
He has to wear his uniform and he is her FI’s brother, so he has to be there. End of discussion.