Post # 1
Many maybe surprised to know that I am the one who did not want to the WEDDING thing. My idea was that we go to the Justice of the Peace, and have a nice dinner with close family and friends. But FH was TOTALLY against this, + I’m my parents only child so its a big deal for them.
All of this is find and dandy BUT (should have known it was a BUT), the parents are paying for any of this (as it currently stands), FH has not picked out his Groomsmen, nor has he given me an opinion on which reception venue he likes best.
On top of all of this our guest list is totally out of control. As of right now there are 194 people on the list. This does not include his Groomsmen & their guest, nor does it include his friends, nor any of his family friends, nor his dad’s side of the family.
When I agreed to this wedding our cap was 120 people, now I know that not all of the people we invite will show up, but if we end up with a final list of 225 or more I’m quite sure that we will be over the 120 mark!!!
So today I sat FH down and explained to him that between work, and kids I have more than my fair share of stress, and if he does not have his Groomsmen, guest list, and give me his decision on the reception venue within the next two weeks that I was not doing anything else for this wedding.
Am I validated with my demand or am I over reacting????
Post # 3
Your demands are definitely valid.
I’m having the same problem with people not wanting to RSVP. I’ve been explaining to most that if you don’t RSVP, we will assume you’re not attending.
Stand firm and only agree to something if it’s not a big deal to you.
Post # 4
@Miss Bowling:it so hard for men to understand how much planning goes into a wedding! they have no idea. my Fiance though that we could pull off a 200 guest wedding for $5000…..ummm no
i think you and him need to sit down and make a task list of what you need to accomplish month to month. first being set a budget and narrow down our guest list! Your Groomsmen dont need to bring guest unless they are married because they wont be able to sit with them during dinner anyway!
I also suggest finding a venue!! QUICK…because aug 2012 is filling up fast!!
im sorry your going through this though boo!!
Post # 5
@Miss Bowling: Sorry that you have to go through all this. Yes you are valid in your thinking…. The point to all this seems to be on your shoulders when you didnt want the whole big scene. The important thing is to stick to your guns and do what you feel is best. If no one is willing to help, then they have to understand and move on from that.
Post # 6
You are definitely valid in making these concerns know to your FH. I think you should stick to your ideas and make sure this will not get out of hand at all. I know that it will work out in the end. Just do not let it stress you.
Post # 7
Ladies thank you so much..we talked just a minute ago and he has FINALLY picked his guys, and we’ve discussed the guest list. We are going to have togo back through that puppy with a fine tooth comb and pull some of those names off that list. Its just going to have to happen
@princesspretti24 no I dont think they understand all that goes into planning and it can be quite stressful.
THANK YOU LADIES SO MUCH…I Truly do appreciate it!!!!!
Post # 8
@Miss Bowling: YAY!!! I know about cutting down that guest list, I had to do it to mines but thats they way it goes when you are on a budget
Post # 9
@Miss Bowling: yayyy!!! yea it sucks but you have to do it!! Good luck!
Post # 10
I’m glad that things are working out… I agree with princesspretti24- sometimes our guys just don’t realize what goes into this kind of shindig! Sitting down and taking it out is the BEST way to go… Good luck on narrowing that guest list!