Post # 1
My first post, please let me know if I happen to do something wrong.
I’m starting to feel a bit overwhlemed and emotional. I just recently moved halfway across the country to be with my fiance. I started a new job, and after confirming that my fiance would not be relocated for at least a couple of months (he is military), we decided that we would hold our wedding in about 6 months. The planning has been going pretty well so far, I can’t complain too much. But it’s been a bit lonely for me, all my friends and family are back home. My fiance’s family is driving me a bit insane. His mother (whom I love) is constantly nagging about the date and how much of an inconvience it is to her. She wants the wedding back home, but it is so much cost-effective to have the wedding here. My fiance and I are paying for the wedding. There’s just so many other little issues as well, such as his potential groosmen and whatnot. I have refused to back down, as it is our wedding. But I’m starting to feel beyond frustrated and haven’t been able to vent to someone that could relate. I’m getting alot of smack for holding my ground and some days it’s draining.
Post # 2
It’s YOUR wedding, do it the way you want! If they love and support you, they will be there regardless! 🙂
Post # 3
I’m in a very similar place. I moved countries to be with my bf, got a job here but I miss my family/friends back home. I’m mostly with his friends (I have very few friends here), I’m getting paid half what I used to earn and have less annual/sick leave than what I used to have… and although his parents are lovely I’m not too comfortable with them… They keep hinting regarding a wedding (his grandma told us many times how much she would like a grandchild) and it’s a bit tough…
I think it’s great you are holding your ground. It’s best if your fiance would be on the same page with you so he can talk to his parents and not you. That’s what we do… for example every single time we come to visit them they try to give us food/appliances/stuff and I told my bf it’s hard for me to tell them no because I don’t want to offend them and we agreed that he would be the one who will decline. And when they start with the wedding talks he is the one to shut those conversations down…
So I would definitely talk to your fiance about how difficult this is for you and he needs to let his mum know that you are making the decisions regarding the wedding and even though she may not agree with some of those decisions there’s a reason behind every single decision and she needs to let you organize it…
Post # 4
totallyabee : Thank you! That’s a wonderful idea, I will definitely speak to my fiance about having him be the one to speak with this parents. I’m uncomfortable with declining them as well, I fear offending them and in general, I’m not 100% relaxed around them. They are wonderful people, I just take a lot of time to warm up to people.
I’m in the same boat! I’ll spend time with his friends, It doesn’t feel…natural? I want to say? Something like that. but haven’t made very many here either. Most of them are just friendly acquaintances. I’m sure with time both you and I will make wonderful friends, we can get through these rough patches! Please also feel free to reach out to me if you’re ever feeling lonely, I know too well that that’s like.
Post # 5
becky3212 : Thank you!! You definitely helped me not feel like I’m being a bridezilla 🙂