Post # 1
Tonight, my mom and I were at a mutual friends house. I was sober, but my mom had been drinking all afternoon and evening. She was much too intoxicated to get behind the wheel and I tried to convince her to not drive. She proceeded to get in her car and attempted to leave, however, I stood in the driveway in order to prevent her from driving. Long story short, she ended up calling my dad for a ride all the while calling me names (fat f*ck, loser, piece of S*!t, etc.). She also kept cutting me with the fact that I am not a mom and that I am loser because of this — I haven’t amounted to anything in life because I don’t have children. I’m 31, I graduated college @ 23 and bought my own house @ 24. I support myself 100%. Once my dad came to pick her up, she got out of HER car and started literally pushing me and swinging her fists at me. Our mutual friend (who is my mom’s age) witnessed all of this. I didn’t instigate, nor did I try to fight back. Our wedding is in two months and this is what I have to deal with. I am sad beyond words. thanks for letting me vent… ugh.
Post # 3
@msmolar: I’m so sorry. Is this typical behavior for her?
Post # 4
Have you ever attended Al-Anon? Despite your sadness, you actually do seem to have some good coping skills.
Always remember that it is the alcohol talking- not your Mom. She is sick.
Post # 5
My mom does not drink regularly… but, she is horrible when she does drink.
Post # 6
*HUG* Remind yourself its the alcohol not your mom. Give it a day or two to cool off and then talk to your mom about that night and tell her what happened and how much it hurt you.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry! Does she realize how she acts after the fact? Thats embarassing for her especially if one of your mutual friends witnessed everything! *HUGS*
Post # 8
Alcohol does terrible things to some people. Please assume that your mom loves you and does not actually feel this way or at least not to that extent. Perhaps she wishes you had children, so that she had grandchildren? Maybe a variation of the terrible things she was shouting that night was true, but the important thing is that she would never behave that way without being under the influence. You know what is important to you and the plan you have set for your life, so don’t let her words upset you. Hopefully, she remembers behaving that way and will apologize so you can forgive her. You sound like a very strong, independent person and that is admirable. You prevented your mom from driving drunk and may have saved her life. She very well may envy your dedication and lifestyle, so just turn the other cheek and hope she avoids the alcohol on the day of your wedding.