(Closed) Beyond upset….My MOH may have just cost me my job

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Oh no! I hope your meeting goes well tomorrow and they realize that you had nothing to do with your friend” making a stupid decision. Have you talked to her yet and told her how serious this is? I wouldn’t blame you for not wanting her at your wedding anymore. 

Post # 3
5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry to hear this.

Hopefully they will investigate, hear your side of the story, and let you off with a warning.  I know tha tin the past (I’m in HR) when we’ve had similar situations we’ve dealt with it that way as long as it wasn’t part of a pattern of bad behavior.

Post # 4
5108 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Did she even realize that what she was doing was wrong? Is she willing to make a statement that you had nothing to do with her changing the form? I assume that would clear it up, it sounds like you did absolutely nothing wrong, I can’t imagine that you would lose your job over this. 

Post # 5
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You’re allowed to share the form with friends, correct? So you didn’t make any error by sending her the form?


Post # 6
217 posts
Helper bee

Was she intending to commit fraud against your company or was it an honest mistake? I would talk to her about it…

Post # 7
407 posts
Helper bee

futuremrspep:  So you’re allowed to give the form to friends? It’s not a family only thing? I only ask because you said your friend lied about the relationship on the form. Why would she do that?

Post # 9
7430 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t understand how they could come after you.   They allow you to share your discount, so they are the ones putting themselves at risk for this kind of thing. I worked at Nordstrom for 8 years, and they were very strict with their employee discounts. We could only use it for ourselves, spouses, and dependents.

Post # 10
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Hopefully since this just happened it feels scarier than it really will be. I’m sorry though! I’m agreeing with PP that as long as your own behavior has consistently been above board/within guidelines, I can’t imagine they would actually terminate you. 

I just kind of suggest, for your own sake, to remind others as you give them out that they need to be used as intended and to not place you at risk by trying to take advantage…

and if you do lose your job, try to remember your friend made a mistake. It was definitely not an “honest” mistake. But, I’m sure she never would have tried anything if she had really understood the risk to you. So just saying, your feelings are understandable but take your time to evaluate things too and not just react in the moment and heat of emotions…

Post # 11
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t understand why your job would be in jeopardy. You followed the rules exactly. What she did after she got the form was out of your control. This makes no sense.

Post # 12
4426 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

futuremrspep:  I would ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to write a statement (email or mail ASAP) explaining her choice and taking responsibility. It sounds like what you did was fine, but she took advantage. Inform her and tell her this needs to be rectified so you do not face consequences at work. 

Post # 13
1812 posts
Buzzing bee

I feel your emloyer’s reaction was a bit severe. Too bad they couldn’t get your side of the story prior to considering suspension. Just keep being honest and all will be well. I would, however, note your own concerns about how this was handled after all has been cleared and request a copy of your personnel file.

Post # 14
7905 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds like you followed protocol, and the modification of the form by your friend was an honest mistake. I would be stressed too with being told you’re on suspension. I hope it gets resolved soon. 

Post # 15
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

futuremrspep:  Wow, what an awful situation! Like PPs, I don’t really understand how your job could be at risk when you didn’t actually personally do anything wrong or inappropriate. I hope it all gets sorted out quickly and that you’re able to move forward with your Maid/Matron of Honor without too much damage to the friendship. It was a very very silly thing for her to do and there aren’t any excuses, but it sounds like she just didn’t consider the potential consequences.

Keep us posted! Have my fingers crossed for you. 

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