Post # 1
I work for a company that offeres discounts to associates and friends and family. I have no problem giving discount forms to close relatives and friends. My Maid/Matron of Honor, on of my oldest friends has frequently asked me for the discount form which I have no problems sending (she lives in other state). She had an old form wich she altered (date/relation) in return making it fraudulant. She got caught and never told me and they sent the fraudulant form to my workplace. I go in to work today and they sent me home suspended until they can investigate. They really take this serious.
I have to go in and talk to HR tomorrow and tell my side of the story.
I am beyond upset, and embarressed. I’ve been with this compnay for almost ten years and have zero infractions in my file.
I also carry the insurance for my fiance and I, this is a huge concern becuase we both have histories of cancer.
If I loose my job, I don’t know if I’d even want her at my wedding…. I feel terrible for saying that 🙁
Post # 2
Oh no! I hope your meeting goes well tomorrow and they realize that you had nothing to do with your friend” making a stupid decision. Have you talked to her yet and told her how serious this is? I wouldn’t blame you for not wanting her at your wedding anymore.
Post # 3
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry to hear this.
Hopefully they will investigate, hear your side of the story, and let you off with a warning. I know tha tin the past (I’m in HR) when we’ve had similar situations we’ve dealt with it that way as long as it wasn’t part of a pattern of bad behavior.
Post # 4
Did she even realize that what she was doing was wrong? Is she willing to make a statement that you had nothing to do with her changing the form? I assume that would clear it up, it sounds like you did absolutely nothing wrong, I can’t imagine that you would lose your job over this.
Post # 5
You’re allowed to share the form with friends, correct? So you didn’t make any error by sending her the form?
Post # 6
Was she intending to commit fraud against your company or was it an honest mistake? I would talk to her about it…
Post # 7
futuremrspep: So you’re allowed to give the form to friends? It’s not a family only thing? I only ask because you said your friend lied about the relationship on the form. Why would she do that?
Post # 8
selinameh: yes, we have unlimited to give to friends or family. They expire so there really for one time use (there emailed) family gets a greater discount. Theres a new format so using an old form caused them to invesigate it and now its all under review including the relation.
I did speak with her to get the story of what happened, she is upset and feels terrible;
cbgg: I sure hope your right! being a good reliable employee should hold some weight. And I don’t feel the infraction was severe. I’ve emailed the Groomsmen about the situation, do you think that was a bad idea?
if anything they may revoke discount privlages for a period of time… but theres still the possibility of termination.
Post # 9
I don’t understand how they could come after you. They allow you to share your discount, so they are the ones putting themselves at risk for this kind of thing. I worked at Nordstrom for 8 years, and they were very strict with their employee discounts. We could only use it for ourselves, spouses, and dependents.
Post # 10
Hopefully since this just happened it feels scarier than it really will be. I’m sorry though! I’m agreeing with PP that as long as your own behavior has consistently been above board/within guidelines, I can’t imagine they would actually terminate you.
I just kind of suggest, for your own sake, to remind others as you give them out that they need to be used as intended and to not place you at risk by trying to take advantage…
and if you do lose your job, try to remember your friend made a mistake. It was definitely not an “honest” mistake. But, I’m sure she never would have tried anything if she had really understood the risk to you. So just saying, your feelings are understandable but take your time to evaluate things too and not just react in the moment and heat of emotions…
Post # 11
I don’t understand why your job would be in jeopardy. You followed the rules exactly. What she did after she got the form was out of your control. This makes no sense.
Post # 12
futuremrspep: I would ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to write a statement (email or mail ASAP) explaining her choice and taking responsibility. It sounds like what you did was fine, but she took advantage. Inform her and tell her this needs to be rectified so you do not face consequences at work.
Post # 13
I feel your emloyer’s reaction was a bit severe. Too bad they couldn’t get your side of the story prior to considering suspension. Just keep being honest and all will be well. I would, however, note your own concerns about how this was handled after all has been cleared and request a copy of your personnel file.
Post # 14
It sounds like you followed protocol, and the modification of the form by your friend was an honest mistake. I would be stressed too with being told you’re on suspension. I hope it gets resolved soon.
Post # 15
futuremrspep: Wow, what an awful situation! Like PPs, I don’t really understand how your job could be at risk when you didn’t actually personally do anything wrong or inappropriate. I hope it all gets sorted out quickly and that you’re able to move forward with your Maid/Matron of Honor without too much damage to the friendship. It was a very very silly thing for her to do and there aren’t any excuses, but it sounds like she just didn’t consider the potential consequences.
Keep us posted! Have my fingers crossed for you.