(Closed) Beyond upset….My MOH may have just cost me my job

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

You didn’t do anything wrong. You were allowed to send her the code and you did that. You had no knowledge of her altering it/submitting it again. Tell HR the truth, that you’re shocked, did not expect this, and will not share codes with her in the future. But I don’t think they CAN fire you, as you didn’t do anything wrong and had no knowledge about the wrongdoing.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

Oh bee, I’m sorry your friend has put you in this position. She did something really silly, but I’m sure you’ll be fine. 

YOU did nothing wrong, and she did something stupid. Ten years as a good employee will serve you well. They will see you don’t have a history of bad behaviour and that this was a one time slip up on the part of your friend. 

Pit is likely just company policy that they have to go through this procedure, so you have to jump through hoops for a bit. 

Chin up, everything will be okay. xo

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

futuremrspep:  I’ve never worked for a company like this, so maybe I’m off base, but their reaction seems incredibly crazy. If you are allowed to send these forms out, shouldn’t there be some sort of written or unwritten assumption that once it left your hands it was no longer in your control what happened? Suspending you to “investigate” seems a bit extreme…I mean, what is there to investigate? Are they going to access your text messages and emails to see if you told this friend to use the wrong date/form? Are they going to interview other friends and family members to see if they do the same? You aren’t giving away national secrets, but coupon codes and depdning on where you work, this just seems a bit off base. 

Regardless, I’d call your Maid/Matron of Honor and ask her to give a written statement stating she did not discuss this with you prior and you had no idea that she still had an old form and would be using it without your knowledge. Further, I’d get her to state in writing that she will no longer be eligible for codes (as I assume that is probably where their line of thinking is headed). 

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

You’ve done nothing wrong so if they fire you, you could sue. But I think it will be ok. I think it’s pretty clear it was your friend’s fault, because you would have nothing to gain by helping her forge her form when you could have just sent her another one!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m sure they just have to do a formal investigation and if you have never been in trouble before they will probably just give you a warning. I hope you plan on giving you Maid/Matron of Honor the boot!

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t even want her in my life if I were you. Even if you get to keep your job, it seems like she’s only in the relationship for what she can get out of it. 

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m going to guess you work for a hotel chain – I’ve had friends who worked for a big-name hotel and they could send a form to family or friends to get a discount on their room. It would be easy enough to scan the form into Photoshop and modify it, so this cannot be the first time this has happened. It probably happened many times before the form changed – this was unlucky timing (unlucky for you; it was fraud by your friend) because of the form update.

If they allow you to send the form out, they should accept that this is not something you can control. I can see them putting your friend on a list that does not allow them to get discounts through employees or even maybe revoking your discount access for awhile, but termination seems extreme.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee

Agree with PPs that, while you should appear humble etc in your interview, you didn’t do anything wrong. Something reasonably similar happened with a friend and he wrote a heartfelt apology and statement for his friend to use with the employer. Honestly, while I would be freaking out about my job because I’m a worrier, I wouldn’t be THAT annoyed with my friend as I don’t think she purposely set out to harm you. I think she made a silly choice thinking it wouldn’t really matter. Your employer is hopefully just following protocol and will move past this. I wouldn’t even expect a warning. There are electronic forms you can use which automatically expire. If they have a form that can be easily tampered with that is allowed to be distributed widely to family and friends than that’s on them. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

I think that while it’s an unfortunate situation to be in the middle of, I’m sure your friend didn’t do it with malicious intent. Stupid of her, yes but I wouldn’t hold too much grudge to her. Also, with how clean your record is over a 10 year span, I would really hope they don’t over-react and terminate….and I highly doubt they will. I agree with PP’s that you didn’t do anything wrong, at all! Try not to worry too much, you aren’t guilty!

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

futuremrspep:  Any update on the meeting OP? Hoping it went well

Post # 27
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Bumble Beekeeper

futuremrspep:  Oh my gosh!  How awful!  I hope everything has worked out okay for you!!  Are you ok?

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

futuremrspep:  crossing my fingers for you! Hopefully it all goes well. 

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper

futuremrspep: 

I think the company would be crazy to fire you!  But, I think I would do this just to CYA:  I would put your statements in a signed letter and submit that with a signed letter from your friend as well. Keep copies just in case you are terminated.  Then you would at least have something to show to receive Unemployment benefits.  

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