(Closed) Beyond upset….My MOH may have just cost me my job

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

After your update with new info on your Maid/Matron of Honor, she needs to go for sure. She sounds like a shitty friend, costing you TWO jobs (one of which thankfully you got back).  I’m really sorry that she is so terrible. 

Post # 47
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

After your update, I don’t even know why you were still friends with her, let alone had her as Maid/Matron of Honor.

 

Have you told her that she cost you your job (again?). What did she say?

Post # 48
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7842 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

You dont need a friend like that.

Post # 49
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1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m… shocked, honestly, that they would have let you go over something that was completely NOT your fault. 

Better things are on the horizon, but get that person out of your life! 

Post # 50
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124 posts
Blushing bee

Wow, with friends like that you don’t need enemies. Kick her out of your life. I would report her somewhere for fraud and theft if possible. If she stole from your parent’s house, she probably stole from others too. 

Post # 51
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218 posts
Helper bee

futuremrspep:  Honestly, bee? I’m not a litigious person, but I think you have a wrongful termination on your hands. Have you spoken to an attorney? Ten years as a good employee, and fired for another’s actions? No. 

Post # 52
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1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Drop her immediately. Not just as your Maid/Matron of Honor, but as a friend or even an acquaintance – permanently. She’s toxic and I’m willing to bet that if you keep her around, this won’t be the last time she wrecks your life. 

Post # 53
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3471 posts
Sugar bee

OP, you knew she had stolen from you in the past but you still extended your benefits to her even though you knew that her conduct could result in your termination?

Sorry OP, it sucks, but you should have known better. I am pretty sure I know the company, and you have to agree to the terms and conditions every time you request a discount form. And those terms include immediate termination if your guest behaves poorly or falsifies information on the form.

Post # 54
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2178 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

wow this is not a friend – it is terrible that she did this to you and I feel so bad about your job but sounds like you have a great attitude about it (onward!!!)

but seriously drop this chick pronto before she costs you ANOTHER job

Post # 55
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee

Did they say why you got fired? Is there anything that says you’re considered at fault for actions of those who you give the discount forms to? If you are allowed to share the forms, and once shared someone altered it (without your knowledge or consent)….I’m lost as to how they could make that into a fireable offense? 

And damn right, I’d get a lawyer and get to the bottom of it. Even if you don’t want your job back, you don’t want a termination on your record. I’d rather get my job back, look for another position, and then leave on my own. Especially since you are using your employment for health insurance, I wouldn’t want to get terminated. I know you can enroll in Cobra (if you are US), but I believe it’s more expensive and only a short term solution. 

Post # 56
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3471 posts
Sugar bee

italianbride0508:  if she worked where I think she worked, this the language that she had to sign every time she requested a discount:

Post # 57
Member
2018 posts
Buzzing bee

zl27:  Ah, seems as then you share the discount with friends/family at your own risk.

In that case, OP I don’t think you have a leg to stand on. Based on your previous encounters with your Maid/Matron of Honor, you knew she was shady and shared the form with her anyways. Potentially it was even stated to you that whatever actions were taken by those with the discount codes. You shared, you took the risk, your friend acted like an a-hole. Sorry, but i retract my earlier post that your employer had no right to fire you (IF you signed a consent form like the one above). 

Post # 58
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7418 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

AnonymousForThis:  not if the discount certificates the OP is talking about is something like an airline buddy pass or a hotel Frienew and Family certificate. You are very much responsible for your recipient’s actions with those certificates. United’ buddy pass program even sets rules on the level of dress (business casual, no shorts, etc) your friends can wear while flying on your pass.

Post # 59
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1386 posts
Bumble bee

I’m so sorry to hear that!!  What a terrible start to your weekend!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 5 months ago by  lovesbooks99.
Post # 60
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1622 posts
Bumble bee

Wow, just wow. This is messed up. Sorry op. I think you need to be very careful about what you share with your Maid/Matron of Honor from now on. Id have a serious talk with her and tell her as much too. Super shady on her part. Shame.

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