(Closed) BF acting strangely…. advice needed please!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Ha!  I think a proposal may be in the works-but it’s all good anyway-right? πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I hope he’s not making sure you say yes, because I’d hope he’d have a good idea of what you’d say before he proposed. I don’t know what his motives are for doing nice things for you, but if nothing else, it could be just because he wants to show how much he cares about you and making you happy.

 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

πŸ˜€ he’s probably just setting the mood for Vday! plus also giving you some very deserved TLC πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think you’re reading too much into it. His change in behaviour suggests that he is assuming a more commited / nurturing / patriarchal role in your life. This is of course positive, but it is quite possible that he’s merely “trying on” the role. My advice: don’t jump to conclusions, and be sure to reciprocate.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Honestly? No holds barred? You asked…

He’s either:

1. Going to propose to you

2. Going to break up with you

3. Cheating on you

or

4. Not going to propose to you right now but knows you want him to and doesn’t want to break up with you and doesn’t want you to leave

or

5. He saw a Dr. Phil special on cultivating respect in a relationship and it inspired him

or

…you know, maybe he just likes you πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t think it’s a specific “trying to get you to say yes” thing.  But maybe he is planning a proposal and trying to make it a sweet situation.  Also, if he’s planning on asking you to marry him, he’s probably basking in a lot of love right now, which makes his behavior that much sweeter.  That’s what my Fiance did – he was trying to plan the perfect day, but he was sweet for weeks ahead of time too, just because he was excited and lovey.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@JennyW1: So basically anything is possible? XD

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Lubylu89: πŸ™‚ I know, it’s hard to say without knowing him or you!

When you say “change” what was the behavior like before?

In my experience (and this is JUST my experience), if the nice, considerate behavior is somewhat erratic, like it’s mixed up with periods or moments of distance or maybe short temper, that’s unfortunately a sign of cheating (a lot of times people act extra nice because they’re making up for bad behavior. But the bad behavior is mixed in, hence the distance).

If the nice, considerate behavior is just a sort of ramping up of his normal nice self then it *may* be a sign of a proposal. However, the time from conceiving of a proposal to actually doing it can be like dog years for a guy vs. the girl–yes, he might be committed about doing it, but it might not come for another 6 months. So, I’m with a PP–if it’s not cause for you to be suspicious, take it at face value and enjoy the love.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

“He’s also offering to support me financially when unexpected expenses come up. (I am a final year student at University and money is tight.)”

 

Sorry hun, but that doesn’t in any way indicate that he’s cheating on you, or that he’s going to break up with you. Quite the opposite, actually.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t get my hopes up for a proposal- just enjoy the much needed love and attention he is giving you. If a proposal ends up somewhere in there, then it is just a bonus. Don’t overthink this one- only enjoy.

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