(Closed) BF, do it now!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Even though I know you’re in agony, I love this post! (I feel like I can SO relate) Just focus on the good parts of the anticipation, and not so much on the bad. Especially if you know your guy can’t hold on to a ring for a long time, you’re going to be off the waiting list FAST. I’m sure he’ll buy the ring and plan a proposal, and I think it’s good that you’re helping but leaving the final steps to him.

As an aside story: last night I asked my boyfriend “what are you most excited about? In general?” Because apparently I can’t hide my excitement and anxiousness AT ALL. He responded with something about work and some other smaller event. When he asked me I sort of responded “wellll….. your proposal.” and he said of course, I should have known when you asked me the question that’s what you were thinking of. hahahaha… smooth….

Post # 4
375 posts
Helper bee

Eek I’m sorry! I feel the same way. I’m having a rough waiting day too. ughhhh

Post # 5
302 posts
Helper bee

@MissBuffalo: Yes, it has been a couple of rough waiting days, and this is one of them! I feel like tomorrow will be too because we have a wedding to go to. I’m happy for them, but you know how it is…

Post # 6
322 posts
Helper bee

Think about it this way (may seem impossible haha) but once it happens, it’s over and you’ll never get it back again. So relish the moments of anticipation as much as they drive you crazy because you will only have this moment once in your life and you don’t want to rush it or ruin it with anxiety (I’m a very anxious person so I know how hard this can be) but try to focus on the fact that as much as you want it to happen asap it will also be a little sad because then that exciting thing you’ve been waiting for is over. (Plenty of other exciting things to look forward to after it tho!!!!)

Post # 7
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

So, I’m going to try to talk you off the edge with some rational thinking. You said he’s going to be ordering the ring…which means that it might not come in for a little while, so you have to try to put the fact that he has the money out of your mind. I know the first thing that YOU want him to do as soon as that money hits his bank account is to purchase the ring, but it might not be the first thing on his mind. Or, he may be looking at different rings and trying to decide what to get and when to pull the trigger. If you go day by day now, you’re going to be disappointed every single day. If you think, “ok, it will probably take at LEAST a week to come in,” you might save yourself a little disappointment.

I think you just need to give him a bit of buffer time to actually buy the ring. My little brother ordered his girlfriend’s ring a little while ago and they told him it would take 4 weeks as they’re custom made for each person. So you want to try to keep that in mind and not think that the money being in his account = proposal in an hour.

Post # 9
1331 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I would go over to the computer right now and leave that website open for him to see.  I wouldn’t say anything, but he’ll get the hint to order it ASAP, lol.  Good luck, it really doesn’t seem like you’ll be waiting much longer!

Post # 11
131 posts
Blushing bee

Just reading this made me all excited! I know you must be anxious! My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have looked at rings and even know we will get married next fall, but I have no idea when he will propose! It kills me! Something that might help though, and i believe someone else posted something along these lines as well….

If he is the man of your dreams and “THE ONE” you will do this ONCE…and only once. I know how excited I get about every holiday, especially Christmas….and then its over, but thats ok and I know that it will be there next year for me to get all excited about all over again. Someone told me yesterday to just cherrish the wait and obsorb every part of it that you can because thats part of the fun! (I’m tying to take my own advice here too by the way!! lol) SO excited for you though! Keep us posted!!

Post # 12
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@artichokey: Gotcha! Haha…yes, the excited part of our brains tend to take over and make us do silly things!

Awesome that you have distractions for this weekend though! That’s what you’re going to need in order to make sure that you don’t also drive him nutty too! The fun news is that in about a month, you’ll most likely be engaged! Eek!

Post # 15
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Oh you are so close now! I hope he gets that perfect stone just in time too….

I know would be a lot more comfortable being in control of the situation, but look on the bright side: you won’t have this kind of anticipation again so if you can *try* to enjoy it that might help. And if you were totally in control of the situation he wouldn’t be able to come up with a sweet surprise.

Post # 16
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do you have any hobbies or volunteering that you can throw yourself into right now to keep yourself busy?  I found that keeping busy kept my mind off of it more and didn’t drive me insane.

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