Post # 61
Member5778 posts
Bee Keeper
- RobbieAndJuliahaha
- 4 years ago
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Member baygull : I would really honestly love to be wrong about this for your sake, there’s no joy in being right on a message board when it means a Bee is hurting as a result, but I can’t help feeling that he’s just feeding you more line. He’s talking head counts at your wedding, packing your stuff in storage to go off on an extended trip, how many kids you’ll have- but this sounds more like pie in the sky than actual plans, more ‘this is what I envision’ than actual timeline. It sounds like he’s bought himself some time without actually having to back it up with any actions anytime soon.
Post # 62
Member343 posts
Helper bee
- TeresaBenedicta
- 4 years ago
A year is enough time for a 40 year old man to know if he wants to marry a woman. Especially if you are, as you say, “spending almost all of your time together.” You should not entertain the “play house” thing with him. Skip that. He should spend his time entertaining a date on which to give you a ring.
I’m willing to bet your SO is a really great guy. Unfotunately so many great guys are bleeping idiots and don’t know when they’ve hit the jackpot with the woman they got.
Hasn’t had a serious relationship EVER, at nearly 40 meets someone, spends almost every waking minute with her for a year, realizes she’s the love of his life, not sure it’s time to get engaged????
This is your winning lottery ticket, you unbelievable bozo!!!
Why so many of them are like this, I don’t know. I don’t have a solution. But it’s a common thing. You’re certainly not alone.
Post # 63
Member870 posts
Busy bee
- Relat
- 4 years ago
It sounds like he’s trying hard to keep you pacified, but not very willing to marry. Would you be okay with marrying a reluctant participant (assuming he eventually agrees)?
I think a lot of people are seeing what I’m seeing, and it doesn’t look good. We are far away, but perhaps you are too close to the situation to see the bigger picture.
Post # 64
Member988 posts
Busy bee
- cherryberrypie
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: City, State
What’s the reason to do everything: engagement, traveling, move in together…. altogether (? Sounds like they are all happening during a short time period), 8 months from now?
Maybe I’m understanding it wrong. Are you “living together” for the first time when you travel next year? Will you be engaged when you travel, for the family union?
Post # 65
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Newbee
- yummygummybear01
- 4 years ago
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Post # 66
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Blushing bee
- baygull
- 4 years ago
Very unexpected update…
My bf and I had an argument a couple days ago that led to me saying, look, we’re eventually going to get married or we’re going to break up. I wasn’t giving him an ultimatum, just explaining that as relationships work, one or the other of those things was going to happen for us in the next couple years. Anyway, it was like a lightbulb moment – he was like, “Oh, well obviously we’re going to get married then, because we’re not breaking up. And if I can say that now, why wait?”
He asked to see the rings I liked, I sent a list over to him, and he said we’re basically engaged and we should start planning for the wedding to happen next spring (he keeps initiating conversations now about guestlists and potential venues, and will roll over in bed and say, “I’m going to marry you!”). He really does want to do a “proper” romantic proposal and ask me, which he says will happen before September, at which point we’ll announce it and start booking things. He has even started to look into premarital counseling, because he wants to “make sure we start off on the best foot possible”.
Thanks for all your kind words bees, it was so helpful to know I wasn’t crazy for wanting to talk this through with him, and once he “got it”, he seemed to get it all at once and everything happened MUCH faster than I thought. He’s excited, and I’m over the moon!
Post # 67
Member66 posts
Worker bee
- chanchito
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2019
Congratulations, you must be so excited 🙂 I’m glad things worked out for you.
Post # 68
Member275 posts
Helper bee
- mrsfox
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2017
Yah! Congrats! Sounds like he has finally wrapped his brain around it. Sometimes they just have to talk and think through it. Good luck and have fun planning!
Post # 69
Member1580 posts
Bumble bee
- libellules
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2017
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Post # 70
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Bumble bee
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Worker bee
Post # 72
Member119 posts
Blushing bee
- baygull
- 4 years ago
Idk if you all will have seen my update in the waiting thread, and I don’t want to revive a zombie thread, but I wanted to update you all and let you know that my bf proposed last week! I honestly didn’t think he was going to do it so soon – my money was on July/August (and then another chat if that didn’t happen) – but he caught me completely off guard by doing it last Wednesday. We’ve already started planning, aiming for autumn (so soon! eek!). So my story had a happy ending 🙂
Post # 73
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Newbee
- yummygummybear01
- 4 years ago
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Post # 74
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Newbee
- yummygummybear01
- 4 years ago
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