(Closed) Bf hit on my cousin? Call it off ?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

This and ‘history of blacking out’. do you think they sound like traits of a nice boyfriend? 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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jbabb :  He’s not interested in your cousin particularly but he has a drinking problem. Until he successfully stops drinking of his own volition which will probably be a major lifestyle change of avoiding parties and bars, this relationship cannot end well. Stop feeling unpretty and ditch your SO for the freedom to date and find a non addicted man! 

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Buzzing bee
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‘blacking out’ is unconsiousness, you cant flirt while unconsious

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Blacking out is memory loss in this case unfortunately.

I think he needs help with his alcohol problem, but I don’t think he’s necessarily interested in your cousin. At all. I wouldn’t suggest ditching him, rather helping him through his obvious addiction problem!

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jbabb :  So he has a “history of blacking out”? Blacking out means you are UNCONSCIOUS therefore you cannot rub anyone’s shoulders, put your arms across someoneone’s legs or just plain flirting with anybody!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

No PPs, being unconscious is PASSING out. Blacking out means you are still conscious and functioning, but you can’t remember any of it the next day. It happened to me a few times in my younger years, before I learned my limits with different strengths of alcohol.

In fact, sometimes I couldn’t even remember things 5 minutes after they happened.

However, that’s no excuse at all. Even when I blacked out I never did anything harmful. And if he’s older than 23 or so, shouldn’t be drinking until he blacks out anymore.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do you want a bf who you can’t trust every time he gets drunk?

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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jbabb :  Maybe I missed this in your post but how often does he drink? In my younger days I drank quite often and blacked out, however I never considered myself as an alcoholic since it only happened once every few months. 

 

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KhaleesiStormborn :  YES! That’s exactly what blacking out is!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Beck Rec center

Girl run like you ass is on fire and don’t look back

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Sugar bee

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jbabb :  1. I don’t think him talking to your cousin would help at all, it would just be putting her in yet another situation where he made her feel uncomfortable and that seems wrong to me. I mean, what’s he going to do, try to convince her that it didn’t happen the way she remembers it? You know what happened; your sister and your cousin both relayed the same info to you, and he was so drunk that he doesn’t know WHAT happened. 2. If it were me, I’d call it off. He drinks too much, behaves inappropriately with other women, then forgets/denies that he did it, and there’s no reason to think that’s going to change.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I agree that he’s probably not interested in your cousin specifically, but is displaying poor behavior because of alcohol use. Frankly, if you’re seeing it now, then you know what you’ll get in the future. Unless he goes to rehab and is in the very small percentage of people who can remain sober for the rest of their lives, you’re going to be dealing with this longterm. You have to decide what you’re comfortable with, but I personally would not be comfortable being with someone who displays this behavior. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Call it quits. Nothing else. 

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pinkcorsage :  I looked it up and it could mean EITHER temporary memory loss OR loss of consciousness (syncopal episode) due to vascular or neurological origin. If you sent the link via Wikipedia Blackout as it is appearing when I click on your link, at the bottom sentence, it also states that, “The term ‘blackout’ can also refer to complete loss of consciousness or syncope” not only memory loss. You should also read carefully the links you send before calling people out. It is not clarified which ”blackout” definition was meant from the original post but whatever happened and going back to the main point of this post, it’s still shitty behavior.

Reference:

Healthgrades, INC  (Blackouts)

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