BF just found out he has a baby coming…

posted 9 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Tbh, this sounds like a lot of drama for an 8 month long relationship. I’d end it now for my own peace of mind.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Wow this is a lot to deal with especially in a new relationship. I think you need to really ask yourself are you okay with the possibility that he will never marry you? I personally would not be willing to stay and support someone with all this potential baggage if we are not on the same page when it comes to marriage. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Agree a lot for a 8 month relationship.  I’d leave.

Also calling BS on the mother. Not knowing you’re pregnant cos you’re small. It’s quite the opposite.  Also there’s so many signs. Bet she got pregnant on purpose 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

If you stay with him you know you’ll be the equivalent of this baby’s stepmom. It’s a lot different than when someone already has a child because you’ll be in this child’s life since day one. Are you ready for that responsibility? 

ETA: Agree with the above poster that her being small would mean she’d be more likely to know sooner. It’s when you’re bigger that sometimes you might not notice the belly for awhile. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

What are his plans now? Is he located near the baby mama? What role does he say he wants to play in this baby’s life?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

missviolet92 :  OP is going off of what her bf is telling her. There’s a possibility he knew a lot longer than he’s letting on and just waited until the last possible moment to tell her before the kid shows up since their relationship is so new.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Mal_Adjusted :  cut and run. Too much drama for an 8 month relationship 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

I doubt you’re getting the whole story or a completely honest version. This is way too much drama for a new relationship. I’m calling bs on her not knowing she was pregnant bc she’s *tiny*, calling bs on your bf claiming she didn’t tell him until the baby was nearly due and lastly calling bs on this nonsense excuse to not use protection.

Think for a minute. What kind of person doesn’t use protection during casual sex with someone he claims is simply a friend with benefits? So he doesn’t care about diseases either? Let this man go figure out his situation with this woman. Good luck to both of them in this mess.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Mal_Adjusted :  if he’s going to do the right thing and provide financial support that’s great.  If he’s going to be an absent dad (due to work reasons or other) it makes him no different to any other man who is a father that’s re-partnered so I don’t really understand why everyone’s telling you to leave.  You sound happy with him. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Hunnibee88 :  bc he doesnt want to marry her (and she’s clearly not ok with it) and hid the baby from her (OP is believing his version for the time being). And this is all before the kid actually turns up and shit gets really real.

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