(Closed) BF shared his timeline…but what if I disagree?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

My thought? Talk to him! He’s going to be your husband sooner rather than later right? (yay!) Just level with him. Tell him what you told us. You didn’t necessarily want to wait but if you have to, you will. You don’t want to dictate when he proposes and you know there are other factors at play… but in your perfect world you would be engaged soon. And then tell him it is in his hands and try to let it go. 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe you should let him know that planning a wedding can take a long time and that he should keep that in mind for the timing of when he proposes.

I you two are having an open discussion about timelines, you should feel comforatble letting him know how you feel.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would just tell him in your ideal situation you’d like to get married shortly after you graduate. Ask him what he thinks of the possibility. Tell him you don’t want to be rushed in planning but you also don’t want him to be rushed in proposing and see if there is a timeframe that works better for both of you.

Post # 6
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like you two already have pretty open communication when it comes to that topic, so I bet he was just using that as a starting point to see what your thoughts were. I’d remind him that you could be engaged while in school, then have the wedding after you graduate, so that still keeps the wedding out of your school schedule. The longer you have to plan, the better, I think. If you incorporate wedding talk into some daily conversation, it might be even easier to casually discuss what both of you have in mind. Good luck!

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