Post # 61
I think issues like this arise when age appropriate boundaries aren’t set as a child grows up. What is normal for a 3 year old is different for a 10 year old, what’s okay at 8 isn’t necessarily okay at 18. I think cultural differences are over-estimated sometimes with issues like this, there are anomalies for every norm and I’d bet this would be odd even within your bf’s own culture. I sincerely doubt there is anything sexual going on, but that doesn’t make it appropriate either. I especially wonder at him turning down your offer of the blow up mattress to share and fear you’ll be marrying a man-child who puts his parents wishes and opinions ahead of his wife’s.
Post # 62
It definitely seems weird to me and inappropriate as well. My sister however breastfed her son until he was 4(!) and he has always slept with her and he’s almost 6. I could see her doing this….
Post # 63
I’d never share a bed with another adult (besides my DH). I think it is odd regardless of whether the person is male or female. Heck, at my age I don’t even like to share a hotel room with another adult. When my mum and I travelled for my BIL’s funeral we shared a car, but not a hotel room.
But I also understand it is cultural. I have friends who have a much different sense of boundaries than I have, and kiss relatives on the lips and hug everyone in sight. Sharing beds isn’t an issue for them, either. So I am not prepared to say it is universally weird or that there’s anything in particular wrong with it, but it isn’t something I would do.
Post # 64
Weird… but I also find it weird when kids (both young and older) and their parents kiss on the lips –
But – meh…guess it’s how they roll…