Post # 46
Also him cheating on you with his cousin does not make that the real excuse. The real excuse is he is an immature *sshat! Only someone who is truly immature wants their parents involved in their personal life for such major decisions. I hope that you didn’t make any career decisions based on him? This is insane, I’m sorry Bee!
Post # 47
Just be glad you’re out of that mess
Post # 48
Wow. You dodged a bullet, Eden.
What culture is he from?
Post # 49
yes- must know. What is his culture?
Post # 50
Sorry for the long delay between posts! So it’s a specific culture from the Middle East (I don’t want to call it out specifically in case there is a bride on here that I will offend/I don’t want to hurt or stereotype anyone). But people I’ve talked to from the Middle East in general have told me that for some in this culture it’s very common and seen as a good thing to marry someone within the family as you can’t really divorce your own family/were probably raised with similar values. Again, I know not everyone from the Middle East shares these views and I hate to sound like I’m stereotyping.
However, I learned from a mutual friend that he did cheat on his cousin with ANOTHER girl (and apparently with me in the beginning as he wasn’t sure who he wanted more but wanted to decide between the 2 of us while leading us on/saying “I love you” and making future plans with us both while telling her he had broken up with me) and she had enough sense to not put up with it instead of mulling over it/worrying about what she had done wrong as I did. Another girl in our class told me he had cheated on her with me when he and I started and I had NO idea (apparently they had been dating for a few months and in hindsight, she did do a few vindictive things but I just assumed she was a “mean girl” as I didn’t know her well at all and he didn’t even tell me he had dated her until much later).
Anyway, learning all the lies and the ease with which he told them/my inability to recognize it was a little unnerving. It’s just strange because he seemed like such a great boyfriend and I don’t know what I would have done differently to avoid this. I hope no one else ends up in a similar situation, but wow. Thanks so much to everyone for taking the time to read the post and for offering their advice.
Post # 51
What he said is the biggest pile of steaming horse crap I ever heard. Tell him if he is going to be a lawyer he better make up better bullshit than that, or he is going to fall flat on his ass.
Look for someone else.
Post # 52
I’m so sorry that all of this happened to you bee, what a douchebag. I am so glad you’ve got out from this insane toxic relationship! Hope that everything is going better for you now *hugs*
Post # 53
Wow thats awful and rough. I hope you’re ok. You dodged a huge bullet. Take care girl you deserve someone 1000x better than this.