Post # 46
It depends if you want a gemstone over a diamond because that’s what you really love, or because of the price. I wasn’t interested in a diamond at all – not in our budget anyway, but I don’t particularly care for them. In my husband’s country people usually just wear a gold band (and no engagement ring). I was adamant I wanted engagement ring and wedding band (a morganite, which came out of our mutual savings that my grandparents had contributed to, so I wasn’t pushing to spend more money), and I do love my rings, but to be honest now that we are married I couldn’t care less what I have on my finger, I’m just happy to be married. If you like diamonds and it’s important to him and he can afford it, just let him get you one.
Post # 47
litttlemisslamb : It’s not about saving money though- she said pretty clearly that she’s uncomfortable wearing a very expensive ring.
Post # 48
There’s a point where gift-giving becomes more about the giver’s wishes than those of the recipient. This feels like it’s veering close to that point. Just because men are often socially conditioned to view diamonds as the only acceptable option here (and I agree that this is a social message out there) doesn’t mean they just have to roll over and go with it, especially if the bride-to-be is unhappy. If we all did exactly what commercials told us to do, we’d just be broke and boring! So if you’re going to wear a ring, Bee, make sure you’re comfortable with it since YOU have to wear it.
Post # 49
I originally wanted a pink sapphire instead of a diamond. My Fiance was dead set on getting me a diamond. It was very important to him. He saw the ring as an extension of himself, not just my personal style. So we comprimised and got a diamond with pink sapphire side stones. Yes my ring is pricey and I have never worn anything this expensive before but you get used to it. I basically wear it at all times except when I shower or when I handle meat. I only place it on my ring dish or its original case when I travel. I think if you have a routine you will less likely lose it. Also insurance isn’t that expensive. My ring cost like $150 a year to insure.
Post # 50
Insurance sounds like the best route! I like diamonds and the only reason I am hesitant is because of the price tag.. and the fact that I have lost plenty of jewlery before but I guess if I get myself a nice jewlery dish to store it and only put it there when I take it off I should be okay. Before my sticker shock I had originally wanted a diamond but I guess I didn’t realize how much money they really were before we started looking. He can afford it and wants to get me one so I guess I should just enjoy getting a sparkly in the next couple of months
Post # 51
I’ve also never had such sentimental jewlery if that makes sense… I have a pandora bracelet my Boyfriend or Best Friend gave me for my birthday a couple years ago and I’ve kept pretty good track of that but the jewlery I’ve lost before were things I got for myself