BF won't listen to my ring preferences….

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

It depends if you want a gemstone over a diamond because that’s what you really love, or because of the price. I wasn’t interested in a diamond at all – not in our budget anyway, but I don’t particularly care for them. In my husband’s country people usually just wear a gold band (and no engagement ring). I was adamant I wanted engagement ring and wedding band (a morganite, which came out of our mutual savings that my grandparents had contributed to, so I wasn’t pushing to spend more money), and I do love my rings, but to be honest now that we are married I couldn’t care less what I have on my finger, I’m just happy to be married. If you like diamonds and it’s important to him and he can afford it, just let him get you one.

Post # 47
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Honey bee

litttlemisslamb :  It’s not about saving money though- she said pretty clearly that she’s uncomfortable wearing a very expensive ring. 

Post # 48
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Blushing bee

There’s a point where gift-giving becomes more about the giver’s wishes than those of the recipient. This feels like it’s veering close to that point. Just because men are often socially conditioned to view diamonds as the only acceptable option here (and I agree that this is a social message out there) doesn’t mean they just have to roll over and go with it, especially if the bride-to-be is unhappy. If we all did exactly what commercials told us to do, we’d just be broke and boring! So if you’re going to wear a ring, Bee, make sure you’re comfortable with it since YOU have to wear it.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

I originally wanted a pink sapphire instead of a diamond. My Fiance was dead set on getting me a diamond. It was very important to him. He saw the ring as an extension of himself, not just my personal style. So we comprimised and got a diamond with pink sapphire side stones. Yes my ring is pricey and I have never worn anything this expensive before but you get used to it. I basically wear it at all times except when I shower or when I handle meat. I only place it on my ring dish or its original case when I travel. I think if you have a routine you will less likely lose it. Also insurance isn’t that expensive. My ring cost like $150 a year to insure. 

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