Bff engaged a year after me. Scheduling wedding before mine.

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 61
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh man, I feel bad for you. This should be the happiest time in your life, you are newly engaged and starting to plan your wedding, and all you care about is that your BEST FRIEND had the utter gall to NOT EVEN GET REAL ENGAGED YET and START PLANNING HER WEDDING TO TAKE PLACE A MONTH BEFORE YOURS! And how are you even going to be able to be a bridesmaid for her because it will just be soooooo stressful since your wedding will be just ONE MONTH LATER? (Has she even asked you to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man yet or is this another not real thing like her engagement that hasn’t happened yet?) 

 

Girl, CHILL OUT. Enjoy your life and your engagement and let your friend enjoy hers. Instead of thinking about the things you find so appalling about this, think about the fun things. You can do wedding planning stuff together! Go do hair and makeup trials together! Try on dresses with each other! Sit at home and Pinterest your centerpieces together! Complain about all the other people who are ruining your weddings together!

Post # 62
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102 posts
Blushing bee

I’m still can’t understand why you should feel unhappy that your friend is getting married, whichever the timeframe is? Her getting married doesn’t steal the love and happiness from your own marriage. It isn’t because she is getting married to her boyfriend/fiancé that yours are going to hate you for the rest of your life IMO.

This is funny, here where I live my friends are competing on not getting married even after years of being together. It feels like a reality TV show of “Who’s Not Getting Maried The Longest”. But then, a lot of people don’t marry here since there is an alternative non-marriage form of legal union between couple other than marriage which is a pretty heavy procedure.

Post # 63
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I agree, there is nothing to confront her about.  People are allowed to do things on their own timeframe.  Just because you chose a long engagement doesn’t mean she is required to as well.

Post # 64
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7 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

There is nothing to confront her about, my sister, my cousin and I all got married all within 5 weeks last summer, and it was the most amazing summer ever! We got to be on the same page about everything, and all of the bridal showers and bachelorette parties made the summer unforgettable!  I would never have changed it for anything!

Post # 65
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I got engaged a month after one of my best friends and am getting married 3 months before her. That is just how it is working out. It does not have to be a competition – we are equally excited for each other’s wedding. We have been having the best time going to bridal bazaars, talking about weddings etc. Focus on that! You have someone that you can talk to about wedding stuff constantly without annoying them!

Post # 66
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Newbee

I have to admit, I would feel the same way you do. I’m not saying that’s healthy, but I would feel really annoyed and hurt by it. 

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