- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2015
Sorry this story is quite long but bear with me as I could really do with some insight and would really appreciate it.
I am genuinely shocked, hurt and upset by the nastiness and rudeness of someone who’s meant to be one of my bestest friends.
So, my fiancé (29) and I (25) made the decision to spend our lives together quite quickly after being together for only a few months . This decision was not made lightly mind you. I am Irish and he is American and we couldn’t stand the thought of being apart if one of us had to return to our home countries – we just knew we wanted to be together. (We are both currently in Grad school in Ireland, as is my best friend).
Shortly into our relationship my fiancé asked me to go to America with him on holidays to visit his family. I was so excited and everyone else including my family and his family and all our friends were super excited too – all except one person, my best friend at the time.
When I told her about going to America on holiday her response was “I could tell you what I think right now but if I did you wouldn’t like it”, so I asked her what did she mean and she just said “nevermind, you wouldnt like it”. Me and my fiancé were both shocked and to tell you the truth I was actually quite hurt. Up till this point I was so so excited about going to America to meet my FI’s parents and I felt like she just squashed my excitement and put a downer on the whole thing.
Ever since then she has continued to make really rude and nasty comments to me in passing, yet she’s nice to my Fiance when they speak. I tried to reach out to her on a couple of occasions asking her if she’d like to go to our grad school ball or if she would like to go to the cinema or just meet up. She told me she had no dress and couldn’t afford to go to the ball but turned around and went anyway and text me on the night of the ball saying she was there with other people. When I asked her to go to the cinema she agreed, so I waited a couple of hours in college near the cinema because I live an hour away, and she blew me off. She didn’t even text me to tell me she couldn’t make it. After not hearing from her and waiting for her for hours I had to text her and ask her was she still coming.
Between the numerous nasty comments and the blowing off, I was super upset to say the least so my mother and sister and a BFF of mine of over 20 years told me to just distance myself from her.
So I took their advice and tried to distance myself from her, which is hard when you both attend the same Grad course, but I was still polite and smiled and said hi every time I saw her.
After my Fiance and I got engaged, I didn’t wear my e-ring to college cause I was scared of what nasty things she might say to me. Eventually after a couple of months, I got sick of not wearing it to college. It killed me to take it off every morning before college. So last week I decided to brave it and wear it to class.
During lunch time last Friday I bumped into her and another couple of other people that I know, so I sat down with them. She barely said hello and 10 mins later she got up and left and never said bye. Just walked off. I knew at that point she had seen the ring.
Later that night I received a message from her “Nice Ring