(Closed) BFF not getting married till Gay marriage is legalized

posted 8 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am gay and even I can’t wait until gay marriage is legalized! We’re having a ceremony in 2012 and then will elope whenever gay marriage is federally legal. I appreciate the gesture from couples who do this, but definitely don’t care when other people don’t wait. It’s not their fault we can’t get married … unless they’re conservative and vote against it, I suppose. 

Post # 4
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Newbee

In my opinion I think It’s a little ridiculous. Them waiting isn’t going to prove anything to anyone…. they are just holding off on their own plans.

Post # 5
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1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it’s really cool. 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

What good is their waiting going to do, though? Nothing. There are other, more active ways to support the push for marriage equality. Ways that could actually do something, instead of just trying to “make a statement.” A statement that I kinda feel is a cop-out.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I too think it’s a little strange to use your marriage as a means of protest. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@BlueBanana21: I totally agree.  The Superior Court doesn’t know who they are.  And even if they did they wouldn’t say “Whoa, did you hear Sally and Jake aren’t getting married until we legalize gay marriage!  We gotta get on this!”.  The sad reality is it’s way bigger than them, and postponing their own plans proves nothing.  I mean, no one cared when Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie said it.  To be totally honest, if my best friend told me this I’d think it was a false statement to sound noble…and would secretly be wondering what the real reason was they didn’t want to make concrete plans.  And now, if 10 years later there are still a few states holding out, but they’re tired of waiting and get married, they look a little foolish.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@MissDallasCowboy: And I think Brangelina just said it because they were tired of the question and it was a way of making a political point. They’re not seriously holding off in protest. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s not necessarily a form of protest that will get noticed by the government- it’s a personal and moral protest that obviously means a lot to them, and I think it’s highly commendable.

Although Fiance and I won’t be doing this, we do plan on submitting a letter with our marriage license that expresses our excitement to get married, but also about how unjust it is that our gay and lesbian friends would be denied the same slip of paper that we were granted.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

While it’s not something that I could ever do, I think it’s very commendable that your friend is choosing to wait until its legal for everyone. Unfortunately, they’ll probably be waiting for quite a while. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Fiance and I talked about this, and dropped the idea after he pointed out that the only people who would know we are waiting are people who already know my fairly outspoken views on gay marriage.  It wouldn’t actually help anyone, it would just sound self-important to us.

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