(Closed) BFP! Now, how to stay calm?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Congratulations!  Sorry I can’t help but it is exciting!

Post # 4
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think we all go through the same feelings of nervousness and anxiousness, but try to only think about good things since stress isn’t good for the baby.  Shoot, I’m already in my 2nd trimester and I still worry.  We’re all being entrusted with such precious gifts so I feel like it’s nearly impossible to not worry.  We just can’t let it consume our whole lives or we’ll make ourselves and our babies sick. 

Congrats to you and your hubby, such an exciting time!

Post # 5
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hooray!  Congrats!  Just take care of yourself and don’t stress out – going to the doctor is a good plan – he/she will be able to put you at ease.  Some people get zero symptoms at the very beginning and others seem to get swamped with symptoms so don’t read too much into it!

Post # 6
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think about this a lot.  How will I possibly not worry throughout the entire first trimester.  I plan to read some books, concentrate on my diet, and just stay as healthy as possible.  But yea, it will be tough.

Congrats to you and your husband!!!!

Post # 7
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! What exciting news! I can only imagine how easy it would be to worry yourself, but as others have said, try to relax for the sake of the baby. I would recommend reminding yourself that millions of women have gotten pregnant and delivered babies, so this is a normal, every-day occurrence. Even small things, like taking deep breaths, can really help.

I also have a few friends that have banned themselves from too much googling. There is SO MUCH that can go wrong. But there is also SO MUCH that can go right. They often focus on what can go wrong when they are obsessively googling health topics. So by banning themselves from too much googling, they avoid all of the negative energy and negative thoughts that increase their worrying.

I wish you the best of luck! Let us know how it goes at your doctor’s appointment!!! CONGRATS!!!!

Post # 8
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it. Go see your OB and talk to them. Get excited and just imagine how good it will feel when you do feel pregnant! Congrats!

Post # 9
1221 posts
Bumble bee

congrats! 🙂

Post # 10
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

CONGRATULATIONS! My friend said she felt this way too. I am sure as time progresses you will start to feel more prego! 🙂 I don’t think you should worry yourself unnecessarily!

Can i ask everyone, what does BFP/N stand for? I get that it refers to getting pregnant or not, but I just started using fertility friend and it uses BD to mean sex (I think?) and I don’t know what the B stands for in all of these things. Can someone help!? Thanks!

Post # 11
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@monalisa670 – I think BFP means Big Fat Positive (or Negative)

Post # 12
2867 posts
Sugar bee

Congratulations, I don’t have any advice!

Post # 13
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I got my first positive test and Darling Husband and I were completely overjoyed! We’d only just started trying, and felt amazing. It was so exciting and we planned how to tell our immediate families (we didn’t wait to tell them). And then… my dr wouldn’t see me until at least week 8 but didn’t have an opening until week 10. I changed offices, but wasn’t able to get until until week 9. We had 5.5 weeks to wait.

I too had practically no symptoms and didn’t feel pregnant. In fact I felt so not pregnant, that I ended up taking another test every 5-8 days just to make sure I was still pregnant. I totally feel for you. I feel very blessed to have an uneventful first trimester and to have made it to the 1st sonogram where we saw our little baby on the screen. You’ll get there. It seems like time drags on as you wait for each next milestone, but the time will really fly. Try to enjoy missing the morning sickness.

Post # 14
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Congratulations!!!  Enjoy your pregnancy!

Post # 16
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Congratulations!  If you’re a worry wart (which, when something this BIG happens, many of us are), you might find it helpful to read up on best practices.  A couple of books that helped me through those first few weeks (we were on our honeymoon in Paris when we found out & weren’t coming back stateside for 5 weeks!):

  • What to expect when you’re expecting (I later learned that this is my OB/GYN’s recommendation to her patients, too)
  • The Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy (to keep you grounded & prevent freaking out if/when your body doesn’t do the things that What to expect tells you to expect)
  • The Week by Week Pregnancy guide; my bridesmaid LOVED this book while she was pregnant because it showed her pics of what the baby was doing inside

Hope that helps, & try to relax.  Take a walk, share your thoughts & excitement with “daddy”, drink water.  Hope yours is a happy, healthy pregnancy!

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