- 2 years ago
I will start by saying that I have lived with my bf for just over a year at his parents house who are lovely people who clearly love having us around. I am 26 he is 29. We keep to ourselves, pay rent and contribute to bills equally.
Next door, his 80 year old grandparents are another story. They have no idea how to be discreet and will full on ask me about my grandfathers financial situation and whether I will be inheriting. His grandmother is supposedly senile and she asks me the same questions every now and then, what my parents do etc etc do we have land in my name, am I inheritng any etc.
None of her family members tell her to shut up they all just giggle but let me answer.
I am done answering their nosy questions.
How do I reply next time? I feel like she looks at me and immediately starts wondering about my $$$$ and its pretty sickening at this point.
I dont have a lot and I know they have a hell of a lot of land in their name. My partner says he doesnt care about our different standings in life but I cant help but feel judged every time we sit down for dinner with them.
Last night I refused to go next door despite being invited because Christmas Eve dinner turned into a 3 hour meeting (Im a lawyer) where the grandad was saying he wants me to sort out his whole estate (its pretty big and would require crazy amounts of time) but he expects this will be done at a super discount aka almost free.
I am a recently qualified lawyer with very little say in cases I handle and I am expected to bill clients every day. I simply cannot take on his families legal work for free. My boss charges based on the size of the estate and if hes not gonna make a sweet profit he will laugh in my face if I ask him to do this.
I told my Bf all this and he says “its going to be ur land too one day” but as far as I see it I do not have a ring on my finger nor his last name therefore nothing is mine and I am asked to do free legal work and I am also questioned regularly about my worth.
I need ALL of this to stop, we cant move out just yet but I refuse to be bullied into providing free legal work and I refuse to be interrogated about my finances or anyone elses in my family.
Any tips? Im sick of it.
I should add his parents arent like that and theyve made it clear we are welcome to stay as long as we need. Im pretty sure his mum would rather we stay with them for longer too. I just wish his grandparents could leave me alone.