Post # 1
Several years ago, Fiance was diagnosed with borderline bi-polar disorder. He has occasional mood swings that rival my PMS, but for the most part, everything is pretty much normal. However, when he is extremely stressed, he has what he calls “episodes” where he basically checks out for 1-3 days, and has absolutely no awareness of what’s going on around him, doesn’t eat, etc. He hasn’t had an episode since we’ve been together (3 years), so they’re not common for him, and I kinda feel like maybe it’s his body’s/mind’s way of doing a system reset to help him cope, maybe, but he had a situation at work a few days ago that had him feeling like he was going to “crash”. Thankfully, he made it home and was able to calm down before anything happened. But, I was wondering, have any of you or your SO’s encountered/dealt with this? Any tips on what to do or how to cope, or how to help him cope? Sorry this is long, and thanks in advance!
Post # 3
DH’s best friend is bipolar. When he’s not on his medication, he gets extremely depressed and has even attempted suicide twice. He just loses complete control of himself. He has had few side effects from the meds and they have truly changed his life.
I’m not trying to scare you, but your Fiance needs to talk to his doctor about this immediately and discuss the options with a medical professional. This isn’t something he can just get over on his own; it’s a serious medical condition that he has no control over.
Best of luck to you. I know this disease can be hard on those with it as well as those who love them.
Post # 4
I can tell you the best thing is to be there for me and to be patient. If yoi know there are things that can trigger him or push his buttons, stay away from them. JUst be supportive as you seem to be doing 🙂
Post # 5
He’s never shown any suicidal or violent tendencies, and early on, when he first told me about it, I did a lot of research, and he truly has a very mild form of it. His doctor gave him a prescription for Prozac, but I’ve only known him to have to take it twice since we’ve been together. Stress is his big trigger, not normal, every day stress, but omg-I-can’t-take-this-anymore-I’m-going-to-jump-off-a-bridge type stress, and so I try to keep a very low stress environment at home so that he has a refuge to go to. The prevailing theme seems to be offering support, and I can definitely do that :)). Thank you guys so much for taking the time to respond!!
Post # 6
My mom is bipolar but very severe. It’s tough.One thing I want to mention is to not be afraid to have him get on a medication program. No heavy psych meds or anything like that. It can be a progressive disease when it’s untreated, not a pretty sight. But even just a low dose of lithium can do wonders for people with a mild disorder and stave off a worsening of his condition.
Post # 7
I have Bi-Polar II and it sounds like your Fiance is maybe in the I category. But regardless he needs medication asap. And Prozac alone does NOT work for Bi-Polar. He’s going to need a mood stabilizer and maybe an anti-anxiety medication.
But he needs to be properly diagnosed first. I wasn’t diagnosed correctly for 10 years and was told I had clinical depression. Well, it wasn’t and it almost ruined my life. I suggest you go back to the doctor or get another opinion but this is a really serious problem.
Post # 8
Thank you, Bees, for opening up and being willing to help! You all have really given me some things to think about…