Post # 211
100 guests in SoCal.
Ceremony Site Fee – $3000
Reception Venue – $11000 (Private Estate)
Furniture Rental $4000
Wedding Planner – $2200
DJ – $1000
Phorography – $6000
Hair & Makeup (All the BMs & Moms) – $1500
Videography – $1900
Food & Drinks – $20,000
Dress – $3000
Transporatation (Shuttles & Limo) – $3000
Flowers – $2000
Paper Goods – $2000
Post # 212
We have ideas of our wedding in our minds and make them into reality. Standards may be influenced from the society we are part of, but we are simple and not over-doers. We both make enough comfortably to omit the budget that may limit ourselves on what we want in our wedding and also have our families that support us if we need. But as you see me asking what shoes to get, I don’t go for luxury things all the time to know the designers.
We focus on what we like rather than looking at price tags. I summed up our cost only after I saw this post. My fiance also did not keep in track and was amused when I copy pasted him my post.
I wanted to chat and have giggly moments together with fellow brides out there because even though people around me have similar spenditure or even more upto over a million, they are already married!!!
So I joined an online community and found that what I want to talk about and discuss are way outcasted :/ I didn’t have prices in mind and was ONLY trying to discuss the actual things and ideas I have and found that we are not on the same page. Then I found this post. Quickly summed up the cost and found that we are all of same mindset: focus on things we want in our wedding rather than looking at $$$ signs.
I know I’m hijacking this thread’s main purpose often but I really really love this thread. I feel like people on this thread are whom I can chat with about our weddings, ask for opinions and share ideas with 🙂
Post # 213
He desperately wants something extremely romantic. He wants 2 weeks in Spain, despite the fact that I have been DREAMING of a more low key honeymoon at DisneyWorld (yes I’m a Disney nut) Of course I want to do something that we both love, but what really bugs me is that he was fine with a DisneyWorld until his childhood best friend told us that he and his fiance were doing a month in France.
I’m tempted to just flip a coin.
Post # 214
there are all types of brides here with all types of budgets! Don’t be discouraged. This is definitley the nicest place on the internet to chat weddings.
Post # 215
isn’t it awesome? I am not big on looking at prices either. I like what I like be it $12 or $12,000. Hehe.
AH! That is tough. I definitely understand the one-uping with his friend. Grrr. Could you spend a couple weeks in Spain and then a few days in Disney? Some sort of compromise? I hope it works out!
Post # 216
ummm hello- there’s a disneyland near Paris!!! Do one week euro Disney one week south of France beaches- Cannes! You can have it all lol
Post # 217
Holy crap I didn’t even think of that. I think Fiance would be happy with that. Will definitely discuss it with him today.
Post # 218
What I got sick of at another site was how I was spending more than X amount on Y, but really you don’t need Y. Me being a dress addict was this – my ceremony gown will not bustle well, and even if I could, it’d be stepped on all night. No thanks. I don’t want a different skirt, I LOVE that skirt and would wear it grocery shopping given the chance. So I’m getting a reception dress. And the next day fun dress because if we’re asking people to travel 12 hours, let’s keep the party going for a weekend.
Do I need either – technically, no.
Can I afford all parts – yes, no problem there.
So, as long as we host our guests properly, it doesn’t matter.
Sure, I don’t NEED the dresses. But I don’t need the full on wedding either, nor does anyone. Get to your JOP and sign the license. Done, here it’s under $100. Everything else is unnecessary extra. But if you want it, and can make it work – go for it.
But spending ~1,000 on two dresses I can and will wear again is wholeheartedly unneeded, but moaning over not being able to pay bills because you’re spending $2,000 on your badly hosted gift grab is ok.
Thus, I took my acres of excessive tulle and left.
Post # 219
we support you and your tulle.
where should we honeymoon? We want carribean- boutique (not a mega resort), luxury (duh), all inclusive with great food, preferably in our own private cottage/villa with private pool. And a perfect beach. Happy to spend up to 1500/night (for both of us).
i wanted hermatige bay but it’s closed in late Sept 🙁 boo. Looking into Jade Mountain next. Ideas?
Post # 220
When I was looking at honeymoons, it look like there were several upscale, smaller resorts on St Lucia in that price range. Sandals appeared to be the low end there!
Post # 221
I am going to Disney World for my honeymoon!!! I love it too. I agree with the EuroDisney and then beach suggestion!
Post # 222
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
Your honeymoon plan sounds SO lush! Wish I had suggestions for you but I’m sure wherever you end up will be amazing… and wonderfully warm.
Part of me would love an island getaway after living in the UK for (what will be) close to 2 years but I know that Fiance and I are too fidgety for any extended time at the beach. We’re currently thinking Japan but I’d love to do a 3-4 week tour of Japan, Taiwan, Thailand, and Viet Nam. Something different with lots of sightseeing to quell our incessant need to move. 😛
Post # 223
that sounds awesome! Honestly I would LOVE to go beyond the carribean, french polynesia, thailand, or south of france, greece! But my groom is not a great flyer. And it is hard to start a trip with 24 hours of travel especially if its only a 10 day trip. By the time you adjust to jetlag its time to go! So the caribbean is an easy direct flight from NYC.
Right now im thinking 3 nights at the Ritz Carlton in St. Thomas- then a little puddle jumper plane, then boat, to a private island resort on Guana Island! It doesnt open till Oct 1st- and I definitely dont want to wait more than a day to start the honeymoon (wedding is Sept 26th) . Or st. lucia like Mrs.Sawyertobe: suggested because a puddle jumper plane might give my guy a heart attack.
Post # 224
- Wedding: June 2015 - The Estate at Florentine Gardens
I honestly don’t know how some people make a budget and truly stick to it. I give them a lot of credit. Maybe it’s just the NJ/NY area, but everything wedding related is outrageously overpriced.
We are in the planning phase now. Our wedding is June 2015. We are very fortunate to have help from both sides of the family because although we both have good decent incomes, we have students loans, living expenses, etc.
Venue: $35K (175 people) (taken care of by parents)
DJ/Photobooth: $2500 ? (taken care of by parents)
Lighting: $950 ? (taken care of by parents)
String Trio: $800 ? (taken care of by parents)
Still more to go :/
Post # 225
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
Okay, going out on a limb here to ask if any of you lovely ladies have gone/are going the Louboutin route for your bridal look?
I ask because I tried on a pair of heels that I would love to wear for the wedding (and Fiance, who is deeply opposed to all things designer LOVED them, which… quite frankly was a shock in and of itself) but they are only sold in-store as slingbacks. I’d personally like to have my shoes with a covered back, as I prefer the look and I find my ankles feel more stable.
The sales person mentioned that I could have a pair custom designed and I was wondering if anyone has ever done this? Moreover, if you did, was the process fairly straightforward and easy? My biggest fear about ordering a specialized pair is that they won’t fit for some reason or that they’ll get lost in transit, etc. Thanks in advance! 🙂