Post # 1
So, it’s evident that I will not be getting my first choice dress because I found it in a sample store and the only part of it that was too small was the bust. Bust, bust, bust. Everyone wants a big bust, but I HATE these DDs! They ruin everything!
That said, I’d love to see photos of brides who managed to find a good dress that supported their larger busts. I’m a street size 12, but have to buy a 16 or 18 dress just to fit the bust and have it altered down. I’d like to see the outcomes of brides in similar situations.
Please post your photos below so I have a glimmer of hope.
Post # 3
Do you have a seamstress that you trust? Could you go to him/her with a picture of your dress and ask them what it would take to let out the bust? It might be cheaper to buy some extra fabric and have them rebuild the bust instead of taking in the entire rest of the dress.
What is the style of dress you want? Are there some styles that work better for you than others?
I’m thinking perhaps something like a halter top or an empire waisted dress might be easiest to alter for you- since the bust is delineated from the rest of the dress.
If you are like certain friends of mine, this is a problem you confront purchasing ANY dress, not just a wedding dress. Which types/styles of dress have worked for you in the past? Maybe that will help you pick a wedding dress that will work.
Sorry you’re having to deal with this. I’ve got a big bust, but I’m plus sized, so it’s all pretty proportional. I wound up getting a dress with an empire waist. Remarkably (to me) because the bust was fitted, I actually didn’t need to wear a bra with it. Never had that happen before!
Good luck! Do let us know how you make out- I’m sure there are other brides out there dealing with this who would love the info.
Maybe some of these links will be helpful?
(According to the 2nd site some dresses can be ordered to fit based on cup size! Did you ask about that when you went shopping?) [attachment=167747,10958]
Post # 4
Girl I feel your pain! I’m a Dirty Delete also, and man was it tough! A lot of the dress tops couldn’t be elongated, so I couldn’t wear a lot of styles. I looked squished or slutty, one of the two!
I went with a dropped slim fit A-line with a CORSET BACK from Maggie Sottero. All the salesladies told me that I couldn’t really wear another brand, but that I’d be happy with a Maggie; and then showed me a ton of them! Maggie is your new breast (pun intended!) friend, I swear. This dress is a size 10, just FYI. I would have had to buy an 18;otherwise, and the dress simply wouldn’t have fit the same if they would have had to cut that much material out of it. But with my corset back, there is zero alterations which is nice, so I can keep all the embellishments on the back.
I like that I’m not falling out of this dress, either. And I don’t look overly busty, either, so you can focus on something about me besides the ladies!
Post # 5
This is very interesting to me…I’m rather large busted too…and I do like Maggie dresses! I’m so happy to have learned this tip..I don’t want to buy a gown much larger than needed just so "the girls" can fit neatly inside…
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
I have a giant chest also! I’m not going dress shopping for a few months, and am already anxious. I’m also a plus size, but it’s not all that proportional. :
I hear that strapless dresses can work for large busts because they can have a "flattening" effect & the corsets provide support…? Hopefully some bees will have some great ideas!
Post # 7
I thought I got "flattened" a lot more in some other styles. My corset doesn’t really flatten me, but it doesn’t necessarily accentuate them, either. If i stand sideways you can tell i’m a busty girl, but I like that the corset provided LOTS of support. In fact, I have decided I don’t even need a bra as long as I, er, "lift myself" up while I’m being tied into it. It’s a built in bra! So you lose some of the padding that you’d have if you were actually wearing a bra.
I just thought the dresses with the straps accentuated my bust more. Or those with really sparkly beaded tops. They are SO hard to get altered and I was scared of that. The strappy styles provided a LOT of lift, as if i needed the push up in the first place. Mom and I had a few good laughs about how inappropriate they looked on me. A strapless corset just fit so easily it wasn’t even a joke. You can buy what fits you in the bust, and it just skims over your hips. If you can’t tell, I’m just in general really really pleased with my Maggie corset dress. I just posted about swimsuits for busty ladies if anyone is interested…(hint: figleaves.com)
Post # 8
Ugh.. I just went to davids bridal this weekend and the sales woman asked me my bra size so she could give me a strapless bra to use… I tried to tell her. But of course she knows best and they must have my size. "Miss," i said I’m a 36 JJ they don’t make bras my size in this country. theres nothing for me in that back room." So she brings me a 50Dirty Delete. oh. fun.
and i swear she was deaf. I"m a size 16 everywhere but my chest. there i’m lucky if i’m a 24. I know this an I’m okay wiht it. it’s why we have tailoring! I’m not one of those girls thats tag sensitive . i only care if it fits. it can alwayes be taken in. But these poor salse women must be traned to make the brides to be feel good above all else and she kepet bringing me the smallest dresses she could fit me into. and all of their dresses must be designed so that they HAVE to be altered… (sorry this turned into a davids bridal rant)
Anyway. i found my dress at Boscov’s (a PA department store) for $117 It fits me P E R F E C T L Y. NO altering required! It’s just right fro my outdoor august BBQ wedding.
and and for you other well endowed girls check out http://www.bravissimo.com OMG the pretty! they start at Dirty Delete and go on from there. and great wedding stuff too.
Post # 9
I am the same as you, pretty much. I am a street size 8 or 10, and I was looking at dresses that were size 14-16. I found that v-neck or sweetheart necklines looked best. The straight-across strapless dresses made it look like one giant boob. The MS dresses with the corset fit great, even with strapless dresses (which I thought I"d NEVER be able to wear). I do want straps though, so I’m going with a v-neck dress with some ruching ascross the middle to give the illusion of a slimmer waistline. GL to you.
Post # 10
Reading all your posts I simply panic!! I bought my dress last august and i am getting married this October. When I picked up my dress before alterations of course I was devastated. The lady ordered a size 18 and my chest does not fit AT ALL!!!!! I normally wear a size 16 or 18 so to see how drastically higher your dresses were bought, clearly she ordered me to small.. I have since lost 20 lbs and hope to lose more. The sales lady says there is 3 inches on both sides the dress can be taken out in the bust but still… I’m angry to have to worry about my chest not fitting properly!!!!
here is a picture of my dress.. (not the exact one, this is when i tried on dresses) this is a smaller size and looks great because the back isn’t zippered!!
Post # 11
I ended up with a corset style (no strings in back to tighten though) bodice like some other posters. Sometimes it is the embellishments or accents that can disguise your bust, like my off-the-shoulder piece that helped me hide my 32FFs. I’m including a before and after during our swedish toasting cup to show you that yes, it was still busty, but I wasn’t bent over all night so I was pretty well hidden from many eyes. Also, a good bustier can do wonders to helping you fit a dress (I happened to choose a style by Goddess that not only had boning in the bodice but also boning in the cups to make my bust stay in place rather than squish up and out). And don’t forget to ask if you can have the cups let out on a dress when you are ordering it. The style I chose didn’t allow for that, but many should be able to. Good luck.
Post # 12
Pelikila – OMG, I am so impressed with your choice! I would NEVER ever know that you had FF cups. I love the neckline. How is the designer of your dress? Did they have other styles with that neckline? What is it called?
Post # 13
Rosychicklet – I’m told that halter dresses are the last thing that someone with big breasts should get…that it makes your breasts look larger than they are.
I prefer a dress that isn’t princessy or very traditional. When my mother went shopping with me, the poor woman was deflated everytime she handed me a dress she loved and I’d reply with "too fu-fu". I tried on a few to appease her though.
What I have found is that dresses that are more structured and tailored looking seem to look best on me. I found a dress that had few embellishments on it that was straight across strapless that made my breasts look SOOOOO small and I loved it! Until I turned to the side….then I looked like my breasts were sitting on a shelf. From the front, perfect! From the side, "would you like a breast hors d’voures?" LOL! Anyway, I love Pelikila’s dress and if I can find something like that, I will be on to the next aspect of my wedding. As of now, I’m stressed out just thinking about it!
Post # 14
Here is my dress-Aurora D’ Paradiso and my undergarment is Goddess #689 Lace Longline Bridal Bustier in size 48F (not only do I have the girls to get in there, I’m also a chunky butt to boot). This is my second wedding and we are having a morning reception followed by a brunch reception. I ordered it in candlelight and the style will go nicely with the guys in khaki pants & navy jackets. This dress was perfect for me and exactly what I was looking for AND only cost $198 from our local bridal boutique! 🙂
Post # 15
I wear a 32G and the bridal store I went to helped me find a designer (Ulla-Maija) who would make a half-muslin to fit my top half, so I didn’t have to order a dress 10 sizes larger than my actual size to get the fabric to cover my chest. My dress was basically customized on the top! I got to wear my dream dress without any bust issues. I definitely recommend the half-muslin route if it’s a possibility for you. Additional cost was minimal. I’m writing about the experience of finding a dress for busty brides in a series called The Pain Free Guide to Finding Your Dream Wedding Dress on a friend’s busty-focused blog this week, redvioletproject.com, if you are interested in more tips (including finding a corset).
Post # 16
@Bridezilla2009: I know you posted this a long time ago, but who is the designer of your dress? Its gorgeous!