- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
sigh. This is pretty much a vent but I am also looking for some support if anyone can offer any. I’ll try and keep it as short as possible …
I posted a few weeks ago about me and my fiance not being on the same page about anything — dates, food, money, the wedding, vacation, goals, time tables, etc, etc, etc. I was keeping my mouth shut because I knew he was under a lot of stress and everything. But last Friday/Saturday I got so frustrated with EVERYTHING, especially our living situation (we’re both still at home). One thing led to another and I drove over his house in a fit of rage and threatened to return my engagement ring.
Well, several hysterical/numb hours later, we talked and talked and talked A LOT about everything. We both acknowledged that we weren’t on the same page and have to really work to get there. We both apologized and made a commitment to pay more attention to ourselves as a couple and be more vocal about our goals, wants, and needs. It was a really scary time and I felt like absolute sh*$ for DAYS but now I really feel like our relationship has improved and will continue to improve.
At first I felt a little let down because I realized that my dream of having our own place in less than a year and getting married in about two years is very out of reach. I was really sad about having to put those things on hold but happy that I have such an understanding fiance who is forgiving and willing to work towards a better future together — whether it takes 10 days or 10 years.
And NOW the latest development is … we might actually buy his mother’s house in less than a year. She is a widow and is struggling to make ends meet so she said she is going to move into “senior” living and sell my fiance the house for, like, half what it’s worth. Then she’ll split the difference with him so we can fix up the house and put some away for a wedding fund.
I am very nervous about this but also very excited. I know it’s going to be a lot of work but at this point I realize this is our best option. The wedding still may not happen for another few years but honestly at this point after everything we’ve been through I just want to live with him and feel like an honest to goodness ADULT.
Again I am nervous but excited. This is the most positive step we’ve taken in awhile. I am still a little disappointed that the wedding may not happen for awhile but …. I do need to learn patience (I’ve struggled with it all my life) and … good things come to those who wait. Plus we’ll appreciate it more when we finally get it.
I guess I’m not looking for approval or anything. Like I said, just wanted to share/vent. Maybe it’d help to hear from someone who went or is going through the same thing….