(Closed) Big Conundrum – Don't want troubled step nephew invited

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If he’s traveling from out of town for the wedding it’s really the least you could do to invite him to the dinner as well. I think it would be very, very rude to invite him to one but not the other.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How long has your brother been married?

If he married fairly recently, then you have no connection to the step-nephew at all. You invite your brother and of course his wife, but her adult child is an independent person now, there’s no need to invite him.

If your brother has been married a long time it’s trickier, because I don’t think you should distinguish between the step-nephew and other nieces and nephews. If he has a track record of actually disrupting events, then don’t invite him because of that. But if he is just going to sit there and be unsociable, I think he deserves an invite as much as any other niece or nephew. (Of course if you are inviting no other nieces and nephews, you can simply apply the same rule to him).

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@paula1248:  If he has a track record of actually disrupting events, then don’t invite him because of that. But if he is just going to sit there and be unsociable, I think he deserves an invite as much as any other niece or nephew.

I agree with this.  If the kid is just a jerk and you simply don’t like him, you kind of have to put it aside for the night… He is your brother’s son.  And assuming you invite other neices/nephews, it would be particularly crappy to leave him out.  If he’s the typical self-asborbed teenager then chances are he won’t want to attend anyway.  Rather than create turmoil, just invite him and bank on him not coming.

And by the way, even though it’s a small afair, you’re going to be on cloud nine, you won’t even notice and/or care if he acts like a turd.

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