(Closed) BIG conundrum! HELP!

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Member
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I suggest just giving her a gift. Why make it public?

My cousin’s parents were seperated since she was 3 and the same thing happened for her (except her mom was not remarried), yet she did no leave names off of the invites.

In some circles the groom’s parents only pay for the Rehearsal Dinner and flowers or just the Rehearsal Dinner. My Fiance parents are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner and flowers, which will be nothing compared to what my parents are paying. So should I not be thankful that they gave us anything? They didn’t have to do that at all.

A lot of couples now pay for everything themselves.

I say just get her a thank you gift, a small token of you thanks. There is no reason to tell all of your guest who paid for what, it is none of their business.

Post # 4
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Say something in your speech. I used the word ‘support to make all my dreams come true’ and then listed the things she has financially supported me for throughout my life, with the wedding being the last thing mentioned.  I never specifically said ‘money’ or ‘financially’, but I think it was enough of a hint and an aknowledgement in front of everyone.  Does everyone really need to know that your Mom paid?

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do you have problems with your dad?  Would he really be offended that his name isn’t on the invite?  Officially, he isn’t hosting the wedding, your mom and stepdad are.  Are you planning on having him walk you down the aisle?

Post # 6
Member
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Give a toast, have her walk you down the aisle, along with your father.

Post # 9
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ick that sucks.  I would probably go with the toast then since you don’t want to rock the boat otherwise.

Post # 10
Member
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

you don’t think that they will cooperate for one day? My mom and dad are going to walk me down the aisle. they did the same for my sister. My cousin did the same and my aunt HATES my uncle, but she sucked it up and he paid for NOTHING and is rich!

Post # 11
Member
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree with @cvbee.

My mom is deceased and I was having a really hard time wording my invitations, so I left my parents names out completely.  My dad helped with the wedding so I just plan on thanking him during my speech.

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