Post # 1
my fiance and i have been worried about how to make our wedding happen. his twin brother kinda cursed the event in the family by un-inviting all of their guests a week before the event because of family drama. now that we are getting married the pressure is on to have a wedding for all to enjoy. both of our parents have been through very messy divorces (mine more recent than his) so the tradition of the brides parents paying for the wedding is NOT an option at all. we want to have our close friends and some family there to celebrate but to be honest……. we really cant be doing a big white wedding due to the lack of funds. if we had it our way we would get away and get married somewhere and if guests can come great, if not then o well….. but if we do that then we run the risk of not having my mother or father there and many other struggling relatives as well……
does anyone have any advice?? any techniques or strategies you used to save for the big day?? or just have an opinion on my post!??
any feedback is much welcomed! 🙂
Post # 3
My biggest advice is…don’t overspend. If you’re on a budget, stick to it. There are plenty of fun, creative and beautiful ways to stick to a budget. Search around the posts and there are tons of budget brides that pulled off FANTASTIC weddings for pennies. It doesn’t have to be the weddings we see on TV to be chic or awesome. 🙂
My other advice? Don’t try to please everyone. Their expectations for your wedding are their own. Decide what YOU GUYS want, and go for it. Find ways to do it creatively. Buy a pre-owned or sale dress, get a venue with a discount, DIY the decor, have a simple inexpensive cake. There are lots of threads that can give you much more detailed advice. 🙂
Post # 4
How many guests are attending that you are sure of? Im not from Nevada but I have been thinking about a destination wedding there with all the stress Ive been going thru and one of my options was to book a wedding with lasvegasweddings.com
Post # 5
My advice would be to look into restraunts for the reception. We are having our reception for my parents for $35 pp. This inclules a buffett with 2 entrees, soup, salad, pots, rolls, desserts, and soda/tea. I don’t think the prices are too different in Nevada. I would also reccomend looking at the clearance section of Michaels for invites. I have also heard great things about Vista print. There is a lot of good info on this site, have fun with it!
Post # 6
his side of the familyis very small but his list of friends is pretty large.. i am the complete opposite. i have a huge family so i dont know how to decide who comes and who doesnt. i dont want to go over 75 people but my family is easily twice that size and word travels fast if someone is invited while someone else is not. we joke around calling my family the mofia…… but thats the best example there is. harsh, brutal, and crazy!! lol
Post # 7
@mdserrano: I think when it comes to large families (Trust me, I can relate) you have to set a concrete plan. You have to say I’m including all siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins…and exclude second-cousins, great-aunts, etc, whatever your level of closeness is. For me…I just had siblings, parents & grandparents and STILL easily reached 25.
Post # 8
I agree with the pp about sticking to a budget and stick to it. There have been several bees who have had amazing weddings on a tight budget. I would suggest that you and your Fiance to discuss and agree on a budget which you both will be comfortable with and on what you both want on your big day. Remember, it’s YOUR day and not anyone else so do what you want and invite who you want to be present on your day.
Here are some tips that I have learned while planning for my wedding:
– Try doing DIY decor and items for the wedding: My Fiance and I are making our invites from scratch, my aunt who is a florist will do our centerpieces, we will make our favors.
– Look for pre-own wedding dresses (i.e., preownedweddingdress.com, oncewed.com, recycledbride.com) or end of the year sale at bridal stores.
– Try having your ceremony and reception at the same location (money saver). Also, you may want to consider having your wedding during the low peak for weddings. Some venues offer lower rates during this time.
– Look for a talented, last year photography student to be your wedding photographer. We are going to our local culinary school to seek for a talented student to make our wedding cake.
– Consider having a small, intimate wedding. The more guests you have then the more you will spend on food, drinks, and everything else.
Post # 9
Could you do a daytime, tradiational reception for your family (close ones) and then have an “after party” at a local bar or restaurant? You could get deals on wristbands or packages for food and drinks.
I’ve been to a fantastic budget wedding (under 2K). The wedding was at a courthouse with their immediate families, then she invited best friends and immediate family to lunch at her favorite restaurant and paid. At night, she invited over 100 people via facebook to a local bar. She rented the backroom, purchased finger foods, and then had people buy drinks or do a wristband deal for unlimited drinks for $30. The DJ she got was FANTASTIC. It was so much less stuffy and she still had exactly what a wedding would have, even if it was exclusive at times.