Post # 1
So, this is my first post. I getting married in November. I did a lot of dress shopping early on in my engagement but couldn’t see myself spending thousands of dollars on a traditional wedding gown. So, I purchased a formal evening gown which I was happy with. It cost a lot of money as far as evening gowns go.
Everyone told me to stop looking, which is so much easier said then done. I started worrying about the fabric of the evening gown and feeling like I could do better. I stopped into Davids Bridal yesterday to pick up my reception dress.
i made the mistake of trying on gowns too, one which I had tried on months ago and liked but now I LOVE it. Everyone is telling me to go for it and buy it.
I just feel bad spending more money even though the cost of all three dresses will still equal less than some girls pay for one.
Ive posted pics of the evening gown and then me in the bridal gown. What do you think? Should I buy it? I am having a small wedding for 50 people, destination. Thanks!
Post # 2
Mintyfresh: I think the ruffle gown is beautiful and very appropriate for a Destination Wedding.
Post # 3
I think the evening gown is beautiful and much more appropraite for a Destination Wedding, but the wedding dress looks great too. I think if you can afford it and you want to buy the wedding dress then you should.
Post # 4
Why don’t you use the “evening gown” as your reception dress & that Davids Bridal dress as your wedding dress? Or did you already buy the reception dress? I do really like that Vera Wang dress from David’s…I had a hard time turning it down myself. It’s your wedding, do what you think will make you happy & feel beautiful…but also don’t blow your budget. In the end, you’ll regret it.
Post # 5
I actually already bought a reception dress. It’s a Vera Wang too. It’s actually a brIdesmaid dress.
I have the money for it but certainly not in the budget, if you know what I mean.
I just feel like the bridal dress looks more amazing and makes more of a statement.
its hard because the evening dress was too expensive in and of itself to just “write off”. I never go to formal occasions outside of weddings where I could justify using it for that.
My Destination Wedding isn’t on a beach of that helps paint the picture a little better. It’s in a hotel for about 40 people.
I regret not paying a wedding dress in the first place, I guess I told myself I wasn’t going to get “sucked in” to the costs tacked to a gown when it has bridal in front of it. I guess I’ll be paying the price now.
Post # 6
Mintyfresh: I prefer the first dress you purchased. I don’t think you need ruffles, bling or “mermaid” to make a statement. I think the first dress is elegant. You could also have it dyed after the weding.
Post # 7
I definently feel prettier in the Vera, although the Badgley Mischka has a very soft, romantic feel. But I’m not a soft, romantic chick!
The Badgley Mischka feels very BHLDN-esque to me. I think I got sucked into that whimsical feeling but it doesn’t really for my venue.
Post # 8
Definitely prefer the first one for a Destination Wedding.
Post # 9
I prefer the DB gown in the second picture.
Post # 11
I had a very similar dilemma. I had originally budgeted $2,000 for a wedding gown and found a Maggie Sottero for $900. It was a dress the sales lady made me try on–not my taste at all, but it looked amazing when I put it on. I bought it on the spot. I kept looking back at the pictures over the last several months wondering if I made a mistake. My fiance and i decided a few months ago to switch to a destination wedding, and the original dress just felt all wrong–it is heavy satin with lots of beading. I accidentally opened a wedding wire email with pictures of wedding dresses under $700 the other day and found a gorgeous Mori Lee Voyage gown for $575. I agonized over it for days, but ultimately decided to buy it. I will keep both dresses and make the final decision after alterations. If I like them both, I may wear them both. I figure it is my day, my money that i’ve worked hard for, so why shouldn’t I be happy? Also, even after purchasing two gowns, I am still under my budget of $2,000.
Post # 12
I really like the second one. Is it an option to use the david’s dress as your ceremony dress, use the original dress as your reception dress and sell the existing reception dress to atleast recoup some of the money?
Post # 13
Both dresses are beautiful and I definitely don’t think you can go wrong with either. I completely feel your pain though. I found shopping for gowns to be frustrating and impulsiveliy purchased the first one that didn’t make me feel like a sausage and then agonized over it for months constantly looking at other dresses. I ended up purchasing a second dress that was always the dress of my dreams and although in retrospect it wasn’t necessary, it’s all about being happy at the end of the day and you can always sell the dress afterwards just to ease any potential guilt.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I like the 1st dress better for a Destination Wedding, but you’re the one wearing it; go with the one you love.
Post # 15
You may be able to return your reception dress and put the money towards the bridal gown? I think the DB gown looks really amazing on you.