Post # 17
@oneofthesethings: FH has about 11 aunts/uncles and approx 30 first cousins… If we add a spouse per each one and their kids (who are all older) we start to get reeeeally high numbers. This is why it seems like an all or nothing situation. He feels he can’t say one aunt or cousin can come and not another. We factored in cutting children and it only brought us down by twenty – ish people :/ we’re still racking our brains on how to cut. Or trying to find a super affordable way not to cut and still be surrounded by the people we love.
Post # 18
Oh My were close. I was ale to do a b&b for under 3k. for about 50 people. I’m very crafty and all of my extras were DIY.
Here is the venueHere is some of the garden pics
Post # 19
@housebee: What a lovely idea
Post # 20
@veronica2011: I’ve never heard of red lion, pa… What a small world! May I ask which b&b you used?
Post # 21
There are lots of low cost venues! When I first started looking, I was thinking “inside the box” and getting outrageous quotes.. But then I started thinking of places that didn’t pop up when I googled XXX, NC wedding venues.. Most hotels have nice banquet rooms that are fairly priced (especially if they allow outside catering), a lot of big churches have banquet rooms (in fact, I looked at the one at my grandmothers church and it was BEAUTIFUL, unfortunately booked for our date), public parks, local club buildings/lodges etc. all have spaces for meetings and gatherings and usually charge significantly less than facilities that are wedding-only focused. If you can get a place for a reaonable price, there are multiple options for keeping the cost of food low.
One is having friends/family cater it. You can do either a buffet or heavy appetizers. Or find a restauraunt that does catering. This is usually significantly cheaper than going with a company that caters only for weddings and special events. They may require you to pick up the food and have your own people to serve it, but its not like its that difficult.
Ultimately, it can be done. Just be creative and since you are, you can do it!! I am not so ultimatley I decided my sanity wasn’t worth the stress and we just hired a caterer and all outside vendors. We did get an awesome deal though using the catering recommended by the hotel our reception is in!
Post # 22
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Can you cut out FI’s cousin’s kids? Is he close to any of his cousins? If he’s not close to these people, you can cut them out, invite a few friends instead, and maybe have a more manageable wedding size. A wedding doesn’t have to be a family reunion, *especially* when it’s on your dime.
Post # 23
I have a huge family too – between me and my fiance, we’re inviting about 150 family (and that’s with us cutting out the non-essential ones!). So with friends on top of that, we’re at about 200 invites.
Do you have any close friends or family with a nice backyard or farm? My parents own a beautiful garden, so we’re getting married there and having an afternoon tea-style reception, rather than a full-on sit down meal. Not only does this mean we don’t have to serve as much food and alcohol (freakin’ expensive stuff!), but the food we are having is pretty cheap or stuff we can make ourselves – lots of cakes, scones, platters, gourmet party pies and sausage rolls. Then we’re getting the local CWA to cater for any extra food.
With about 200 people invited, we’re probably going to be spending less than $3,000 on food and drink (we’ve budgeted extra because we’re not too sure how much alcohol, if any, we’ll be providing).
Post # 24
@MrsJohnsonToBe: Where are you from? How far are you willing to travel for your venue?
When it comes to venues, sometimes you have to give a little. The first venue I had let us bring our own alcohol, but we had to take their catering, and they wanted almost $4k for 60 people, and it wsa $2000 to rent.
The next venue I found, I have to hire an alcohol catered, BUT, the venue itself only costs $350 and catering is $1400 MAXIMUM, probably alot lower. So even though we have to take an alcohol caterer, [which will probably be around 1200], we’re still saving ALOT of money!
Post # 25
I think that you can absolutely do it… basically you need to spend about $30 per person (or less including taxes/tips etc) for food/drink (probably not alcohol but at least water/soda/coffee and maybe beer/wine?) at 175 p that comes to about $5000 and $500 or so for venue (including chairs, tables, linens, plates etc)
that leaves you $250 for officiant/church fees, $500 for a DJ, $500 for flowers, $500 for photos and $750 for your dress(including all alterations, shoes, veil etc) and then $200 for him (sorry guys get the short end of the stick!)
Its not a huge budget but I would think that you can find some options…. church halls, social clubs (ask your dad/uncles if they are VFW or Legion etc)
Post # 26
this place came up when I googled and seems slightly out of your budget but they include a LOT in the package and I bet you could cut way down…
also their plated lunches are pretty nice at $20 + tax/tip pp
Post # 27
@OP: My fiance and I have decided that because our guest list is going to end up being about 200 or more, we are going to have a wedding at 2 or so and that we are just going to do a cake/dessert reception following (using a small, simple cake for the cutting, and sheet cakes for everyone else!). That alone is going to save us 1500+ from our budget. But then, we aren’t serving alcohol, or having a DJ (we will probably just have an iPod plugged into the sound system). But if cutting the alcohol isn’t an option–A co-worker who wanted to be able to have the alcohol without having to purchase it rented a venue that had a bar where his guests could buy it themselves.
Also, sometimes your theme or feel can make a wedding cheaper/more expensive. We are going for a rustic/vintage feel, so we can repurpose items that we already have, could borrow, or pick up from thrift stores. Overall, we are going for the “less is more” theme. But if you are going for a super glam, it could cost more…
Good luck and happy planning!
Post # 28
We agree having a late evening wedding on a Sunday, with just champagne and cake. Everything is under $5,000. We went this route because having family and friends was more important than serving a meal.
For guest lists cuts, if you want to, could you just do moms, dads, grandparents, aunts and uncles? Our guest list has about 130 people for all relatives, but I really wanted my wedding to be like a reunion. We are doing a BBQ at my parents the day before to really get to talk to everyone and have a cheaper meal time with evertbody
Post # 29
@MrsJohnsonToBe: I’m just a little past Lancaster,PA It’s called Red LIon B&B lol
But it’s small thats why I choose it. They can only accomadate about 50 people. Dani and George were awesome. Not to mention how great the food was and Cake
Post # 30
How about a brunch reception? A morning ceremony followed by a brunch would be nice. For drinks, you could just have champagne and mimosas, maybe a bloody mary bar if the budget allows. I’ve found that to be significantly cheaper than serving dinner with a beer and wine bar in my area, and restaurant buyouts for brunch are less than dinner time so that opens up options.
Also, like other bees said, look for alternative venues like rec centers. I’ve found that locations that allow you to hire a caterer of your choice and buy your own alcohol end up being much cheaper, even if the rental costs are higher than all inclusive venues.
Post # 31
@vandhaug2011: ok, Lancaster area isn’t too far away but it probably won’t work for us. Thanks for the advice though, it’s truly appreciated 🙂 and I love the colors of your cake!!