(Closed) Big Family- who to invite to reception?! Smaller Wedding

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
Member
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Welcome!  I think the best option, in these cases, is to draw a line somewhere about who will be invited versus who will not and then objectively apply that rule to everyone.  So if you only want to invite aunts/uncleas/first cousins, you invite all the people who fit into those catergories from both sides of the family.  I think once you start excluding some people from the same category (e.g. only some first cousins you like and not the ones you dislike), it can cause a lot of family drama.

Good luck!  I’m sure you’ll figure it out!

Post # 4
Member
3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I have the same problem!

FI’s family is small all together.

My moms side is tiny.

Stepdad’s side HUGE! I have at least 20 first cousins! And I am now kicking myself for picking such a pricey venue! Esp. for not getting price cuts for children!

Children and Adults are the same price! Yet children cant take full advantage of the bar like the Adults can…GRR!

Its really hard because we too are more close to some cousins than others and some we only see 1/2x a year! Why the heck would I want to pay for them to come to my wedding?! UGH! Its so hard girl! I totally feel you!

I really dont know how we are gonig to break the news to our families that we are having a SUPER intimate wedding!

Post # 5
Hostess
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Were just invited to a wedding where only certain people were invited to the actual reception.

The bride and groom are hosting a dessert only reception for everyone that attends the wedding immediately after the ceremony at the church. In their invitations they included a special invite to those that are invited to the real reception at another location. I thought it was a pretty creative solution to their budget issue.

Post # 7
Member
3267 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t believe in a blanket rule where age or place in family heirarchy is the determining factor.  What we did was invite people with whom we have a current, ongoing relationship.  This means that some first cousins are invited, and others aren’t.  Some kids are invited and others not. 

If anyone dares to be so bold as to question my invites, I would be more then happy to explain it to them.  Why would I invite a cousin that I haven’t seen in 7 years just because our parents are siblings? 

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