- 5 years ago
Been with SO for over a year and live together. Spends lots of time together and generally very happy. Occasional disagreements, nothing major, but I’ve learned qhen he’s mad he needs time to blow off steam and get over it.
I’ve been working on my graduate degree for 3 years and am near to finishing my internship, the last piece before graduating. I unexpectedly lost my spot and have been struggling to find another internship position. If I’m not done by end of march, I would have to repeat 300 hours of internship time and pay $1200 fee. These aren’t easy spots to find and because of my location, I would have to travel to get to one.
I planned on being done in decembER , originally, so we planned a resort vacation for first of February to last 2 weeks. Yay! Well, just yesterday, I was offered an internship spot at somewhere that is exactly what I want, and is usually very hard to get in, with a 2 year wait lIst.
so, I either start right away and finish in 1m-6 weeks or I go on vacation and then don’t start at this place til end of feb and potentially not finish internship before deadline. Or I lose my spot bc I sound ungrateful and don’t wanna start right away. Easy, right? Reschedule vacation, i did buy insurance.
Excpet for SO. He is so mad at me for agreeing to start and push back vacation. He said i should have consulted him, that I’m being selfish, I should have asked the internship director if I could start after my vacation. I explained how I need to get done, this is a dream site, we can go in a few months. Hes never been This mad. Didn’t want me to talk to him or touch him, yelled at me, etc. hr Almoat slept in another room. Told me I shouldn’t cry and he didn’t want to hear it. After some sleep he was a little better said he loves me, but said he was tired of his life being put on hold for my school. (He can’t go back to get a higher degree or leave his job he absolutely hates bc when i fonish we would need to move for me to get a job).
he’s gone to work for the night. I usually est dinner with him on his break and he said he doesn’t know if hell be in the mood, he will let me know
I am so heartbroken that he is mad. I want to do what’s best for my education, but hate that Ive hurt him. my friends in same grad program say I’ve done nothing wrong And he should be aplogozong for blowing up, be an adult, etc. But he won’t see it that way. He’s always right. I love him and want some honest unbiased opinions on if I’m wrong and what can I do to make this better? Thanks 🙁