- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Darling Husband and I got in a stupid fight last night but I still feel mad about it. The back story is, I rarely watch tv. In fact, I didn’t even have cable before we moved in together! But, we got cable and have one tiny tv in the house. I consider myself an educated, intellectual person; I watch the news, documentaries, etc, etc. However, every once in awhile when I get home from a long and stressful day at work, sometimes I want to unwind. And that for me means putting something silly and frivolous on tv when I get home, while I clean up and get dinner ready. And that something is reality tv.
I get home before Darling Husband and so I will occasionally put on whatever silly show is on MTTV, TLC or E! – Usually the Kardashians, Married to Jonas, Teen Mom, Giuliana and Bill, whatever, and have it playing in the background why I do something else. Sometimes I’ll sit on the couch and half watch it while doing work stuff on the computer.
Darling Husband hates with a passion any and all reality shows. Every time he sees me watching them he rolls his eyes, makes a face, makes negative comments about how trashy/stupid whatever program is (hey, I agree – most of them are trashy!) and it gets on my nerves but whenever he asks me to change the channel, I’m fine with it. And really, it’s maybe only a day or two out of the week that I even have the tv on for a little bit when I get home from work – I’m not someone who watches it from 5-10pm. I might have it on from 5-6 and then eat dinner and go to the gym and come home and work on my thesis for grad school or do more work stuff. TV is just my little brief break here and there.
Last week, someone told me about the train wreck that is Honey Boo Boo, so I admit to tuning in to a couple of clips to see what all the fuss is about. I didn’t even watch an entire episode!
So, anyway, the other night I came home after having a grad school meeting and Darling Husband wanted to go to bed but I wasn’t tired yet, so I stayed downstairs and was watching some program on 9/11 for awhile but it was quite heavy so I started surfing the internet and found an article about a new reality show on conjoined twins, and it really interested me so I watched a documentary about them and then an episode of their reality show and then around midnight I went up to bed.
The next day Darling Husband asked me when I went to bed and I told him I stayed up and watched a reality interesting reality show about conjoined twins. He rolled his eyes, sighed loudly, and in a serious voice said “I’m really worried that you have an addiction to reality shows.” He wasn’t joking – he was dead serious. This really set me off – I was so offended that he would accuse me of something so ridiculous (this was a culmination of all the other comments he makes which is why it got to me so badly). I don’t make him feel bad if he wants to watch Shark Week or sports games. Why does he have to make me feel like a piece of garbage for unwinding with a silly tv show every now and again?
Anyway it ruined my whole day and he eventually apologized and said he probably used the wrong word but that he was genuinely worried about me. I was just shocked because out of all my friends and co-workers, I know I watch tv less than ANYONE. I think I average 1-2 hours a week max of tv. I was just so upset that instead of respecting that I want to relax and unwind with a silly show every once in awhile, I get looked down upon by him, when I never do that about what he does in his free time. I know we are probably overreacting but it just bothers me so much that he has that view of me. Ugh! Sorry, needed to vent big time on this.