- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I’m just writing to have a bit of a vent and to hopefully get some advice!! I’m currently having a bit of a nightmare week in the run up to our wedding this Saturday. I’ve taken the full week off work to get little bits and pieces finished off, spend some girly time with my bridesmaids and was really looking forward to it. It’s now Tuesday and I just wish I was at work!!
It all started last Saturday (a week before the wedding). I was at my parents whilst making all the little name tags. My mum asked how my FH’s speech was coming on and I told her I didn’t know, but knew it would only be something short and sweet as he’s very nervous about standing up in front of everyone. She asked if he needed some help putting it together and I categorically told her ‘No’ as mum can be very pushy and he would end up reading out something she wrote!
I thought that was the end of it….
My FH came home from work yesterday and was really quiet with me, however we had friends round so we didn’t have chance to have a chat. We then all left striaght for the rehersal at the church which I didn’t enjoy as I was worried what was wrong. We went out for dinner with friends which again I didn’t enjoy.
When everyone left he told me my dad took him to one side at work (my FH works for my dad) and told him we had been discussing his speech on Saturday and were worried that he wouldn’t do anything. They wanted to check he had everything under control as they could offer some help!!
At the rehersal, my mum scuttled up to him and gave him a speech that she had written herself!
He was upset because it was made to look like I had gone to my parents behind his back to moan about his speech. In all honesty I coulnd’t care less about the speeches, if he told me he didn’t want to do one, I wouldn’t mind one bit. My parents, especially my mum is very controlling and it made me angry that they had made a big deal of it when I asked them not to.
When my mum rang this morning, I told her I was upset that they had been pushing the speech with my FH. She then just lost it!! She told me that if they didn’t help, he wouldn’t say anything (which is completely untrue). I told her that I didn’t mind what he said, to us the speeches are not important, she just yelled down the phone about how we HAVE to have good speeches and tradition and how ‘she wouldn’t mind a thank you’. I told her that it was our wedding and that we intend to thank everyone, in fact I spend all yesterday morning sorting gifts for the wedding party. She then told me she didn’t want it (even though in the speech she wrote, she had worded a gift presentation for both her and FMIL). That’s how it’s been left and I’m just completely bewildered how something so trivial to me and FH has created such a rift.
My dad has rang telling me that he’s trying to get my mum back on board, god know what she’s said to him, obviously something along the lines of not having anything to do with the wedding.
So, two days into the week off I’ve spent months looking forward to, I’m just wishing it would all be over