Post # 1
My Fiance and I got in a HUGE fight last night, and I’m still pretty upset. It was all really dumb, but here I go.
He got a text early on in the day, he said he didn’t even look at who it was from and that it just said happy thanksgiving. When we were driving home, I was checking my phone and I had a couple texts, one from my last ex. I texted him back and said happy thanksgiving to you too. My Fiance asked me who I was texting, and I told him. BAD idea. I don’t want to keep things from him though, but he BLEW UP! He got so pissed at me and said that his text earlier was from this girl that I’m not real fond of, and that he didn’t text her back because he knew it would upset me (but then he texted her right then), and that he doesn’t talk to his ex anymore. I told him that he just needed to tell me that it would upset him and I won’t have done it, and he said that he has hinted it. Well, it just escalated and he almost walked out! I started BAWLING!!! It was so dumb and turned into something HUGE. I went to bed and got up and left for work this morning. He has the day off so we are supposed to meet for lunch.
Tell me we aren’t the only ones that fight over stupid stuff like this! And that it will be ok!!!
Post # 3
Luckily, our huge arguments have never involved exes, but we do argue over things that I think are more ridiculous.lol It sucks, but I think it all just takes time. It’s hard being in a relationship and dealing with different feelings and most of the time someone feels different about what happened than the other person. It’s sssooo annoying!! But hopefully, after a while you guys can laugh at what you argue about. I know we do! ha
My advice.. don’t drag it out! It just makes things worse
When you meet for lunch talk about it at first, then move on to something else.
Post # 4
Oh Rosie Girl, don’t worry!!! I really do think everything will be fine, and I am not just saying that.
Sure, it sounds like a “dumb” fight, but it’s about something real—what kind of relationship you two are going to have with exes/members of the opposite sex. I am not saying that he doesn’t trust you. It’s just that he loves you and would probably prefer for you not to have too much contact with your ex.
I think you guys need to sit down and talk about what you’re really fighting about. Ask him first how your “friendship” or whatever you would call it with your ex makes him feel. And then tell him how his “friendship” with that other girl makes you feel. (I am using “friendship” in quotes because I don’t know if you would say you are friends still with your ex or just friendly.)
Just establish some “ground-rules.” Come to an agreement on how situations (no matter how big or small) will be handled in the future. And remain honest with each other—that’s the best way to avoid any feelings of insecurity.
Everything will be okay, hun! Just calm down and don’t freeze him out—he loves you!
Post # 5
Awww *hugs*, we had a huge arguement yesterday. Over setting the raw turkey on the counter. Yeah, so we all fight over stupid things! I agree with Gemstone on setting ground rules, it will def help. Also, arguements make you a stronger couple, as long as you can forgive each other!