Post # 1
It’s been a whole year since I’ve had my 1.5 carat F1 moissanite ring. My hand size is 4.25.
At first I thought it was too big, then after a while I got used to it, but recently I’ve been meeting up with some old friends and the comment is always along the lines of “it’s HUGE!”. I then have to either explain moissanite or just say nothing and smile lol
I live in London and the average carat size here is supposedly 0.5c to 1.0c, so it’s not a surprise that people think it’s big.
I’m debating what to do. I personally don’t have a problem with the size, just the attention, and possibly strangers thinking I’m trying to pass off a fake diamond.
Now my fiance doesn’t care as long as I’m happy. It was me who chose the 1.5c so totally my own fault lol. My ideal size would be 1 carat, so I could buy a new ring but people will notice the size difference. I could also go down to 1.25 and hope nobody notices?
Please help me out and vote, thank you!
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
I feel like this is less about the size of the stone and more about the fact that it’s moissanite. You don’t want the attention that comes with the larger stone, but you also don’t want “to pass it off as a diamond”…going with a smaller stone in hopes that no one asks you about it is just that.
Before spending any more money, I’d really think about what’s important to you in terms of your ring. If it’s big bling and who cares what it is, then keep your ring because you chose it for a reason. If you don’t want to feel like you have to explain yourself every time someone asks you about your ring, I’d probably downsize to a natural stone of some sort.
Post # 3
I went through something similar. I thought my 1.25ct baby pink gemstone was obviously not a diamond, but my “practical” and judgy coworkers and family felt differently. It’s very out of the norm in my office to have such a large ring and at first I was pretty embarrassed that my coworkers assumed I had spent so much money in a way they thought was frivolous.
But eventually I just decided I got the ring because it was “me” and I can’t stop being me because people judge me for it. I just very honestly explain to people it’s not a diamond because other things are more important to me than having a diamond.
I honestly, seriously doubt they will think a 1ct is any more practical and “the damage is already done” so to speak. They’ll think you frivolously bought a 1.5ct ring and then also bought a 1ct ring thanks to peer pressure. If you truly would be more comfortable with a 1ct and it’s more you, then go for it. But don’t do it for other people.
And I can tell you from experience people still think 1.25ct is large so that won’t solve your problem. Plus your logic is kind of flawed- you want to change your ring so people won’t think it’s too big, but you also don’t want it to be obviously smaller so people won’t notice??
Post # 4
all votes so far are for sticking with the original lol
just to explain, I am not trying to pass off my ring as diamond in any way. I wanted an affordable clear sparkly rock suitable for an e-ring and I kept reading about this so called “shrinkage” problem so I got the 1.5, thinking it was an acceptable size. BUT my mistake was not knowing that in the UK everyone has tiny rings, so mine really stands out! I would be equally uncomfortable with a 1.5 diamond. I want people to see my ring and think it’s a normal size and neither too big or too small.
Post # 5
Maybe it’s because I live in an area where erings come in all sizes, but I cannot fathom commenting on the size of someone’s stone whether large or small. Seems to me the only appropriate response to seeing someone’s ring should be “What a beautiful ring. Congratulations”.
I say love the ring you’ve got and screw all the rude people who comment on the size.
Post # 6
Bee buy a small real diamond ring at a pawn take out moissy. Than no more worries! Don’t waist more money on a nother sim you think you need to explain which you don’t have to do.
Post # 7
Don’t succumb to peer pressure, fellow UK bee! I’m a grad student n when Fiance proposed with a .64ct diamond, due to the marquise shape n the cut, it looked bigger than it is, n the first few comments I got was “wow, it’s beautiful.” But straight after that was “mine wasn’t as big as yours”. I felt bad n all.. to be honest, I’m very proud of my FI’s taste and the longer I wear it the more I love it. So nothing else matters.
Post # 8
I did consider buying a pre-owned 1 carat diamond ring but wasn’t sure where to get one from, considering ebay is so full of rubbish. I will have a search for pawn shops. I just can’t justify buying a new diamond ring because although they look amazing, I don’t love it that much to spend like £6000 on it
Post # 9
Why, when people comment on your ring size, do you have to explain it’s moissanite? None of their business. If that’s the only reason you would want to go smaller, I think you should keep the original. Before changing your ring again, get a CZ that’s similar to what you intend on purchasing and wear it for at least a week. Even trying on a ring once in a store isn’t the same as really “living with it” for a period of time.
Post # 10
Just re-read your post and saw you wanted a 1 ct original. Definitely get a 1 ct equivalent CZ and see how you like it. If you really want 1 ct, don’t get 1.25 just so people “won’t notice”. If they don’t notice you changed it, they will still have the same perceptions as when they first saw it anyway! It doesn’t go both ways!
Post # 11
I say keep what you have. If it doesn’t feel too big to you personally and you have adjusted to the size, it’s not really anyone else’s business. People like to admire and comment on size. Just graciously say thanks and move on. 😉
Post # 12
Fellow uk bee here. I have a 8mm (2ct equivalent) moissanite and people do comment on the size but I happily tell them it’s a moissy. I can’t carry off dainty so it suits my style and I’m not really worried what other people think, only what makes me happy! I say stick with what you’ve got!
Post # 13
You aren’t going to make everyone happy whether you have a .2 carrot ring or a 5 carrot ring. And keeping changing rings is not going to stop people from thinking you spend too much on rings. Keep your ring because it is your engagement ring and you have no duty to appease rude people.
Post # 14
I think maybe you need to play around with some different sizes and see what you’re most comfortable with day-to-day on your hand xo
Post # 15
I say keep it! And we need a picture!