(Closed) Big moissanite engagement ring problems

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you do? 1.5 carat moissanite ring too big on size 4 hands

    Buy a new 1.0c ring in a different style, let people see that I've changed my e-ring

    Buy 1 new 1.25c in the same style, hope nobody notices

    Stick with the original and stop worrying about the size!

    Other, please explain

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

    I feel like this is less about the size of the stone and more about the fact that it’s moissanite. You don’t want the attention that comes with the larger stone, but you also don’t want “to pass it off as a diamond”…going with a smaller stone in hopes that no one asks you about it is just that. 

    Before spending any more money, I’d really think about what’s important to you in terms of your ring. If it’s big bling and who cares what it is, then keep your ring because you chose it for a reason. If you don’t want to feel like you have to explain yourself every time someone asks you about your ring, I’d probably downsize to a natural stone of some sort. 

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee

    I went through something similar. I thought my 1.25ct baby pink gemstone was obviously not a diamond, but my “practical” and judgy coworkers and family felt differently. It’s very out of the norm in my office to have such a large ring and at first I was pretty embarrassed that my coworkers assumed I had spent so much money in a way they thought was frivolous.
    But eventually I just decided I got the ring because it was “me” and I can’t stop being me because people judge me for it. I just very honestly explain to people it’s not a diamond because other things are more important to me than having a diamond.
    I honestly, seriously doubt they will think a 1ct is any more practical and “the damage is already done” so to speak. They’ll think you frivolously bought a 1.5ct ring and then also bought a 1ct ring thanks to peer pressure. If you truly would be more comfortable with a 1ct and it’s more you, then go for it. But don’t do it for other people.
    And I can tell you from experience people still think 1.25ct is large so that won’t solve your problem. Plus your logic is kind of flawed- you want to change your ring so people won’t think it’s too big, but you also don’t want it to be obviously smaller so people won’t notice??

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Maybe it’s because I live in an area where erings come in all sizes, but I cannot fathom commenting on the size of someone’s stone whether large or small. Seems to me the only appropriate response to seeing someone’s ring should be “What a beautiful ring. Congratulations”.

    I say love the ring you’ve got and screw all the rude people who comment on the size.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    dw4518 :  

    Bee buy a small real diamond ring at a pawn take out moissy. Than no more worries! Don’t waist more money on a nother sim you think you need to explain which you don’t have to do.

    Post # 7
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    763 posts
    Busy bee

    Don’t succumb to peer pressure, fellow UK bee! I’m a grad student n when Fiance proposed with a .64ct diamond, due to the marquise shape n the cut, it looked bigger than it is, n the first few comments I got was “wow, it’s beautiful.” But straight after that was “mine wasn’t as big as yours”. I felt bad n all.. to be honest, I’m very proud of my FI’s taste and the longer I wear it the more I love it. So nothing else matters.

    Post # 9
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    180 posts
    Blushing bee

    Why, when people comment on your ring size, do you have to explain it’s moissanite? None of their business. If that’s the only reason you would want to go smaller, I think you should keep the original. Before changing your ring again, get a CZ that’s similar to what you intend on purchasing and wear it for at least a week. Even trying on a ring once in a store isn’t the same as really “living with it” for a period of time.

    Post # 10
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    180 posts
    Blushing bee

    Just re-read your post and saw you wanted a 1 ct original. Definitely get a 1 ct equivalent CZ and see how you like it. If you really want 1 ct, don’t get 1.25 just so people “won’t notice”. If they don’t notice you changed it, they will still have the same perceptions as when they first saw it anyway! It doesn’t go both ways!

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee

    I say keep what you have. If it doesn’t feel too big to you personally and you have adjusted to the size, it’s not really anyone else’s business. People like to admire and comment on size. Just graciously say thanks and move on. 😉 

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    Fellow uk bee here. I have a 8mm (2ct equivalent) moissanite and people do comment on the size but I happily tell them it’s a moissy. I can’t carry off dainty so it suits my style and I’m not really worried what other people think, only what makes me happy! I say stick with what you’ve got! 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    You aren’t going to make everyone happy whether you have a .2 carrot ring or a 5 carrot ring. And keeping changing rings is not going to stop people from thinking you spend too much on rings. Keep your ring because it is your engagement ring and you have no duty to appease rude people.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee

    I think maybe you need to play around with some different sizes and see what you’re most comfortable with day-to-day on your hand xo

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper

    I say keep it! And we need a picture!

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