Post # 1
I need opinions! My bf and I are getting engaged by the end of the year. I don’t want him to spend thousands of dollars on a ring but at the same time I want something that will look as real as a diamond if not a real diamond. We decided on a $500 dollar budget. We’ve been shopping around everywhere for my ring and looked at all the options there is.
I tried on a 1 carat solitaire diamond and loved it but its just way out of our budget. So then I went with the idea of buying a diamond simulant instead however I thought what if I regreted it and wished we’d gotten a real diamond even if it was smaller in size. Please Help! I want to know all of your opinions. What would you choose?
Post # 3
For me personally, I would choose either a small diamond or other gem that does not look like a diamond.
Post # 4
I have a Diamond Nexus Labs ring and I absolutely love it! I didn’t want a mined diamond for a bunch of reasons, cost being one of them, ethics another. We had a great experience with them.
Post # 5
I’d choose the small diamond. I prefer the look of a smaller stone.
If you’re already worried you’ll regret getting a non-diamond, then I think you have your answer. You can always get another ring with a larger stone later on, like an anniversary ring or something.
Post # 6
I have a 1ct moissanite and love it. I think of it as its own gem, and optically prefer it to a diamond, but it definitely has the benefits of a clear stone/diamond (ie. everyone understands it’s an engagement ring, and you don’t have to explain it to every nosy person who asks why you don’t have a diamond)
Also, I think it’s normal to worry that you might regret not having a diamond, but unless you really love diamonds in particular, or you have your heart set on that tradition, I wouldn’t worry about it. I had honestly never looked at a diamond up-close until I was picking a ring, so I didn’t have any reason to prefer them to other stones. I also wasn’t concerned with the tradition, so again, no worries there. I’d say unless there’s some specific reason why you think diamonds are better (and there are fine reasons!) you wont’ regret it.
Post # 7
You will find a lot of moissanite lovers on here, me being one of them. It’s such a pretty super sparkly stone and I don’t have any problem telling people what it is if they ask.
Post # 8
I’d go with the real one; or consider other colored gemstones.
Post # 9
I’d go for the smaller diamond, I think diamonds are just aesthetically nicer but that’s just my opinion, not fact.
Post # 10
@DANA84: I would choose a smaller real diamond. If I wore something that looked like a diamond but wasn’t one, I would feel like it’s a fake.
Yes I know that moissanite and asha and CZ etc. are all their own stones, they have their own properties yadda yadda, but since I know I want a diamond, I will not be happy w. anything else.
I’d personally feel like a fraud because I would be basically passing it off as a diamond.
If I didn’t want a small diamond, I would probably go with something completely unrelated to a diamond like a sapphire or ruby if I only had a $500 budget.
Could you maybe just get an inexpensive stand-in ring for the time being and save up for a 1 carat diamond? It sounds like you won’t be happy w. a simulant OR a small diamond. Good things come to those who wait…
Post # 11
I would personally choose either a colored gemstone or a smaller diamond, leaning towards a larger colored stone – but you want a diamond or something that will look like one. You should be able to find a simple moissanite ring within your budget if that’s something you’re considering.
The only issue I’d raise with CZ would be its longevity. If you don’t mind replacing the stone at some point down the road, it would be a good option to set a 1 carat equivalent CZ in a gold setting. That would be doable within your budget and I’d recommend WinkCZ or Asha. It sounds like you’re already second-guessing any stone that isn’t a diamond, so you might want to ask yourself if you will feel OK with having a CZ or simulant in your ering. 🙂
I’d check out this site if you haven’t already, just to see if anything jumps out at you: http://diamondbistro.com/
A diamond ring is more than doable in your budget, and we would definitely be able to help you find something you like for the best price.
Post # 12
I also love blue sapphire and would be more than happy. The only thing is my bf wants to get something that looks more traditional.
Post # 13
I think I’m just a very confused bee. I like reading what everyone’s thoughts are though. Thank you for all the correspodances.
Post # 14
@ThreeMeers: +1 I think going the gemstone route is a good option for you. That way it’ll never look ‘fake’ because it isn’t trying to be anything it’s not*
* that is not to say that all people with an asha or moissy are trying to pass it off as a diamond. I love that people rock them, but it’s just that the OP just stated that she wanted it to look ‘as real as a diamond’. Zero offense meant.
Post # 15
@DANA84: I personally don’t like fake stones. I would rather a real stone that was small but actually worth something than a huge fake one that is basically a glorified cracker jack ring.
Post # 16
@subtlebee: Woah now. “basically a glorified cracker jack ring” isn’t exactly a nice thing to say around here. Loads of bees have moissies and ashas and they are gorgeous and don’t mean any less just because they don’t fit your tiny conception of what an engagement, and engagement ring, should look like.