(Closed) Big stupid fight with FI…which I (stupidly) started

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you guys got in a fight.  At least you know what you need to work on with your communication.  My husband and I don’t have the best communication either sometimes.

Post # 4
Member
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

It is hard when you don’t have a good example in your parents, but I really think the first step is realizing you are following in their steps.  That awareness really can help!  I’m kind of in the same boat. 

Just make a promise to yourself not to use those words in haste again.

Post # 6
Member
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

talk it out!!

do you guys have a ‘time out’ method in arguments? a way to say “this is too emotional and I need to stop before I say something I’ll regret, so let’s take a breather and come back when we’re calm in like ten minutes and keep talking”?

Keep talking with him, work through it. Maybe look at this as an opportunity to grow in your communication together.

I hate to even ask, but have you apologized for saying it? That can help a lot.

Post # 9
Member
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Communication is a skill that’s hard to achieve for many. But not impossible – you can find some techniques that work for you and train for them. Recognizing that it’s a problem is the first, and biggest step you’ll ever take. I personally loved the classic “men are from mars, women are for venus” to learn good, healthy communication through conflicts.

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