Post # 1
So we registered small because
a. our wedding is on the smaller side (no biggie) and more importantly,
b. our apartment is teeny with minimal storage.
So while that blender/rice cooker/chopper/makes french fries 8 different ways contraption would be nice (does that even exist?) we just don’t have the room for it. We registered for what we thought were “big” ticket items – comforter set, new daily china, luggage, etc. This isn’t passing judgment on other “bigger” ticket items, it’s just what we needed and wanted. Plus my friends are all only a few years out of college and I put items on there that again we needed but were more in line with what I could afford to pay if I were coming to my wedding ($50 and under.. lots of $10 or $15 stuff that you could buy separately or buy the whole set). Great, awesome… except…
My dad travels around the world for his consulting business and wanted to invite some of his clients. He figured they wouldn’t come, but might be good for a check or two. (His thinking not mine! Though, money wouldn’t hurt :P)
One of them (dad’s client…come on now, keep up! 🙂 purchased, I s*** you not, 75% of our BBB registry. I’m talking 1000+. I’m talking multiple days of UPS deliveries.
I’m also talking a SERIOUS flabbergastery on our part.. How on EARTH do you begin to thank someone who was so generous? We’re talking 3 sheets of inventory on the invoice! I’ve written nice little notes (immediately) for every gift we’ve received.. but this time, a simple thank you does not seem enough. I’d love to wait and perhaps mail them a picture of our wedding day and say something like “would have loved for you to be a part of this..” But I want to acknowledge their generosity much sooner rather than later.. I don’t want us to look ungrateful..
Post # 3
Simply write a nice thank you. That is all that people expect. I have done a ton of very generous thank you letters in my work. I would make sure it is hand written and signed by you both, try to find a nice pen in a unique shade of blue.
Post # 4
Wow! That’s so generous of them! I would tend to agree with @tksjewelry. I’m sure they didn’t buy all of that so that you’d send them a bigger thank you than everyone else, especially since it seems most of your other guests wouldn’t be able to financially do the same as this person did.
I would just suggest that you express your surprise and gratitude that they’d do all of that for you, and maybe say that you’re sorry they won’t be at the wedding? If you want to include a wedding picture, or something of the sort, that’d be fine. But, I don’t think it’s expected or anything like that. Maybe your dad could also send a ty note? since it’s one of his clients? Just a though. =)
Post # 5
I think a nice thank you is about all you can send.. I mean, who sends a gift as a thank you for a gift any other time! Ha. Get some nice stationary and write them a long thank you note, possibly add a photo of you guys in front of all their stuff! They might enjoy that!
And congrats! Now you have to go add more registry items for the rest of ’em!
Post # 6
Where is he from? Maybe he didn’t really know what was expected of him? I’d research what is standard in his culture and base my thank-you on that.
Post # 7
I say write a nice thank you note, listing a variety of the things he gave you (he isn’t going to expect you to list everything). Also, prior to that I would talk to your dad and find out some info about the clients’ personality. Let your dad what he sent you and let him read the thank you note. Your dad will probably know him well enough to know what will and will not offend him.
Post # 8
I say keep writing the thank you notes, and definitely send a picture!
Post # 9
I would maybe send him a bottle of wine?
Post # 10
Send a heartfelt thank you now, and then maybe also send a photo after the wedding?
Post # 11
I like the idea of sending a photo of the two of you with all the stuff he sent in the thank you card, and maybe get a nice one of a kind thank you card for him! Is he or is he not coming to the wedding? BTW-I like your brain! lol
Post # 12
Send a Thank You note and a wedding photo, I think he will like that!!
I love the Brain!!
Post # 13
Wow that’s crazy! I would send them a picture from the wedding for sure but send a thank you note now too.
Post # 14
Omg, that is crazy generous! I can’t imagine how we’d react. I’d be shocked for days. I honestly think I’d send them a card expressing my EXTREME gratefulness, and even flowers or some small token item. I know its not ‘proper’ to send a gift for receiving a gift but jeez, they spent a lot!
Post # 15
I agree. Having been through something similar, write a very heartfelt thank you on nice stationary, then after the wedding send a photo with another thank you and wish you could have joined us. They dont expect more
Post # 16
That’s awesome that you got such a generous gift! I would just do as others said, send a really thankful note and a picture. I wouldn’t send another gift in return though.