(Closed) Big Thank YOU conundrum…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Simply write a nice thank you.  That is all that people expect.  I have done a ton of very generous thank you letters in my work.  I would make sure it is hand written and signed by you both, try to find a nice pen in a unique shade of blue.

Congrats!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow! That’s so generous of them! I would tend to agree with @tksjewelry.  I’m sure they didn’t buy all of that so that you’d send them a bigger thank you than everyone else, especially since it seems most of your other guests wouldn’t be able to financially do the same as this person did.

I would just suggest that you express your surprise and gratitude that they’d do all of that for you, and  maybe say that you’re sorry they won’t be at the wedding?  If you want to include a wedding picture, or something of the sort, that’d be fine.  But, I don’t think it’s expected or anything like that.  Maybe your dad could also send a ty note? since it’s one of his clients? Just a though. =)

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think a nice thank you is about all you can send.. I mean, who sends a gift as a thank you for a gift any other time! Ha.  Get some nice stationary and write them a long thank you note, possibly add a photo of you guys in front of all their stuff!  They might enjoy that!

And congrats!  Now you have to go add more registry items for the rest of ’em!

Post # 6
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1580 posts
Bumble bee

Where is he from? Maybe he didn’t really know what was expected of him? I’d research what is standard in his culture and base my thank-you on that.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I say write a nice thank you note, listing a variety of the things he gave you (he isn’t going to expect you to list everything).  Also, prior to that I would talk to your dad and find out some info about the clients’ personality.  Let your dad what he sent you and let him read the thank you note.  Your dad will probably know him well enough to know what will and will not offend him.

Post # 8
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I say keep writing the thank you notes, and definitely send a picture! 

Post # 9
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would maybe send him a bottle of wine?

Post # 10
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Send a heartfelt thank you now, and then maybe also send a photo after the wedding?

Post # 11
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I like the idea of sending a photo of the two of you with all the stuff he sent in the thank you card, and maybe get a nice one of a kind thank you card for him!  Is he or is he not coming to the wedding?  BTW-I like your brain!  lol

Post # 12
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Send a Thank You note and a wedding photo, I think he will like that!!

I love the Brain!!

Post # 13
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow that’s crazy!  I would send them a picture from the wedding for sure but send a thank you note now too.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Omg, that is crazy generous!  I can’t imagine how we’d react.  I’d be shocked for days.  I honestly think I’d send them a card expressing my EXTREME gratefulness, and even flowers or some small token item.  I know its not ‘proper’ to send a gift for receiving a gift but jeez, they spent a lot! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree.  Having been through something similar, write a very heartfelt thank you on nice stationary, then after the wedding send a photo with another thank you and wish you could have joined us.  They dont expect more

Post # 16
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636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s awesome that you got such a generous gift!  I would just do as others said, send a really thankful note and a picture.  I wouldn’t send another gift in return though. 

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