(Closed) Big vs small wedding

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m choosing a small wedding with all of my closest family and friends because it’s what we want, i want to see and party with all of my friends and family and not worry about pomp and circumstance and seating etc.

as a guest i have no preference, i would really just like to be there for the couple as long as i am not stuck in the back near a door because the list was too large and there was no where else to seat me.

Post # 4
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2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My fiance and I chose to have a small wedding! Our perfect number is 150 … we have around 190 invited now – that’s the max.

I’ve only been to two weddings in my whole life … so really I have no opinion but it does seem like you can do more “special things” if you are having a smaller wedding.

My wedding would be entirely different if I invited 650 people. =)

Post # 5
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It doesn’t matter how big it is, people will have fun no matter what. Big of course is really cool (for the most part).

Post # 6
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We chose to have a small wedding (40).  We are paying the same price for our small destination wedding as we would to have a large wedding where we live. We felt it was more important to have an intimate event and share it with those closest to us.  I was married once before and hated spending the reception going table to table schmoozing with our guests.  I am very excited about our wedding and intimate celebration but it wouldn’t be everyone’s idea of a perfect wedding.

Post # 7
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re having a very small ceremony and a larger dinner, for 100 people. i have extremely high anxiety and i really don’t like being center of attention, so there was no way that i’d be happy with a big wedding. however, my fi really wanted to share the day with friends and family, he was more about a big wedding. we comprimised by letting people celebrate with us after. as a guest, i’ve never been to a small wedding. i’m not a fan of dancing, so really i’m probably not the person to ask.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

We originally thought ours — at the beginning of our planning — would be about 110 people, but now that it’s less than a week away (eeee!), we’re jazzed about the fact there they’ll only be aboutt 80 people there…small enough for us to see everyone, not get too easily overwhelmed, etc. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We invited 125 (kids included) and we expect to have about 75 or 80. We didn’t go into it trying to have a small wedding and we invited everyone we wanted to invite. So it just worked out that way.

Post # 10
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1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We had a small wedding, 32 guests. I wouldn’t have had it any other way; this was our preference to have only those closest to us attend. It was beyond personal, it was private.

As a guest, I don’t have a preference. If a friend has a small wedding like mine and I’m not invitied, it doesn’t bother me. I love bigger weddings, too, I have been to one of about 500 people and several in the 80-120 range, which seems most common.

Post # 11
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599 posts
Busy bee

I go back and forth on this a lot. Part of me wants a small intimate wedding and the other party wants a huge extavagant wedding. I think I will end up somewhere in the middle.

Post # 12
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796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I had something of a small wedding (just around 100 people), and then a while later went to my friend’s large wedding (around 225). I noticed differences, even though maybe they weren’t as noticeable to other people since I had just gotten married. Like MsHymanRoth said, you can do more special things with less people since that usually means you have more money to play with.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m having 2 small weddings!  The 1st is a church ceremony, it’ll be just us and the parents!  Our other wedding is 2 weeks later in Aruba with about 60!  I like love small weddings! 

Post # 14
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wanted a small wedding but with are families being so huge it quickly turned into a big wedding.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

We wanted to have a small one so that we could be able to have more personal time with our guests. We’re inviting about 175, and hoping for 125-150 to come.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would love to have a small-ish, intimate wedding with about 100 guests. However, it has become clear to me that sharing that special day with so many people that are excited to be a a part of it is more important. So we are inviting over 200 guests, though many of them are out of town and won’t be able to make it. 150-ish is more than I would like, honestly, but I’m still happy to include everyone that I feel deserves it.

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