(Closed) Big wedding against my wishes? (long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not about win-win. It’s your life. Do what YOU want. The wedding isn’t about them – it’s about what you guys want. If you guys want to be an independant, established family, you’re going to have to draw boundaries. This is a good place to start! Make your wedding what you want – start your marriage with something you are excited about!

Post # 4
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Maybe you could have a small wedding in your area, intimate, family atmosphere etc, and then afterwards have a larger reception as a compromise to appease the in-laws. It wouldn’t matter if the mailman was invited, because it wouldn’t be your wedding (and you’d already celebrated with your loved ones) but it would be a chance to celebrate and show off in a way they’d want?

Post # 5
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I”m with Pumpkinclouds. She said almost exactly what I was going to write. My best suggestion is do a small, intimate wedding at home. If the parents are that insistant on a wedding, do a vow renewal in their area with all the bells and whistles.

If you do it this way, you can pay for the wedding of your dreams at home and know that you are legally married the way YOU want to be married, then you can let the in-laws do whatever pleases them with their excessive and flashy tastes because although you two will be the centre of attention (I hope!), it will be nothing more than a vow renewal, and, at least for me, that wouldn’t mean as much.

Post # 7
1330 posts
Bumble bee

If you do a destination wedding, it is intimate and affordable. And, you can count on your Fiance family insisting on throwing a reception party for you back home anyhow.


Post # 8
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with the destination wedding folks…  if you have it enough in advance, your family could save and attend-hi family would most likely go for it since it is unique and will be in a lovely venue.  It is a win- win! It would be like EVERYONE getting a fun, exotic vacation!!!! 

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