(Closed) Big Wedding Parties?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How do you feel about over sized Wedding Parties?
    I love all of my friends and want them in the wedding : (6 votes)
    10 %
    No, thanks lets keep it small : (57 votes)
    90 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I think it takes away from the purpose of why youre getting married personally. In My Humble Opinion, a wedding is about the bride and groom, its not about trying to include 345784375934958 people.

    Post # 4
    Member
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think a big wedding party adds a lot of extra cost and logistical concerns. There’s also the added stress of trying to corral so many people, make sure they are all doing what they need to do.

    Post # 5
    Member
    319 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I wanted to keep it small – but my groom has been in at least 15 weddings (NO JOKE) so he wanted to have six guys…and four ushers on top of that!  I had no problem picking ladies…but eek 6 is a lot! 

    Post # 6
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    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Our bridal party has 18 people – 7 GMs, 9 BMs and 2 ring bearers – I wouldn’t have it any other way. They are my family and best friends and I couldn’t imagine getting married without them by my side. 

    Post # 7
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    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It’s not for me, but I don’t care what other people do. I think the wedding party should be in proportion to your wedding size too – if you have 24 BMs/GMs, and only 60 people total at your wedding, totally off. But if you have 24 and you have 300 at your wedding, a little more in line.

    5 on each side is my max for what I could deal with. I’d probably go crazy if I had to try to coordinate 10+ girls. But if other people want to do that, more power to them. I usually hear about it being a headache instead of a blessing though.

    We’re having 3 BMs/3 GMs. No ring bearer/flower girl, no ushers.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think huge wedding parties take away from the special-ness of it all. Those should be people who love and support you and your relationship, who you will be friends with the rest of your life. Unless someone has 6 siblings or something, I worry that people will look back on their wedding photos with regret. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    986 posts
    Busy bee

    We’re having a medium sized wedding party – 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 3 BMs, 1 Best Man, 2 GMs, and then 2 little girls carrying a here comes the bride sign. One of my BMs might actually end up standing on the groom’s side if the best man’s new girlfriend makes him drop out (sigh). But I still think that would be awesome. 🙂 

    Post # 10
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    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    we have 15 people in ours. On my side- my two sisters, my two best friends from 1st grade, my cousin, my best friend from college, and a friend from the city I met my Fiance. Fi’s side- His four best friends and his four sisters. 

    I thought of who I would want there all day to celebrate with me. I think everyone will have their own opinion. And i’m sure that people will think we are having too large or a wedding party, but I’m not, not going to include someone I love and who I want to be with me because people say I shouldn’t. 

    Post # 11
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    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My wedding party had 24.  I also had 7 usherettes.  If I had to do it all over again I would still have my 24 and my 7 usherettes.  My Bridesmaid or Best Man were the best! My usherettes were fantastic!  The guys showed up when they were suppose to so I guess they were great too!  My flower girl got sick right before we were about to walk down the aisle we cleaned her up and told her she could go sit with her mom but she said no she wanted to walk.  My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were sewn and didn’t turn out well but my ladies still rocked them and didn’t complain.  My bridal party was thebomb.com!

    Post # 12
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    2084 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m having 4 maids of honor, 8 bridesmaids, 1 best man, 11 groomsmen, 2 flowergirls, 1 ringbearer. And these are people that have been with me through thick and thin, thinner, and thinnest (lol) so I wouldn’t have it any other way!!!! 

    Post # 13
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    5242 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor (my best friend) and 5 bridesmaids…4 are my closest friends and one is my cousin. Fiance has 6 groomsmen. We also have 4 children in our wedding….1 junior groomsman, 1 ring bearer and 2 flower girls 🙂 Its seems big now that I write it all out but I was in a wedding where the bridal party was over 30 people and to me thats alot!!

    Post # 14
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    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Kee_Jay22:  Yeeeah I went through a little of this…

    I had 3 best friends throughout HS and we’ve sort of grown in our own ways (and with our SO too) over the last 3-4 years but I still felt like I had to have each of them in my party (bc when we were 18, I told them that’s the way it was gonna be! oh how time changes things)…  as well as my brother’s wife (because she’s family), my sister (even tho we don’t really get along), and then my soon to be SIL (because we’re gonna be family now) AND my 14yo neice as a JR Bridesmaid or Best Man, my 8yo neice for Flower Girl, our GM’s 5yo daughter as Flower Girl and my 4yo nephew as Ring Bearer.

    Future Sister-In-Law dropped out so on the day I had 2 MOHs, 3 BMs, 1 Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man, 2 FGs & 1 Ring Bearer…

    It felt like it spun out of control…

    ESP because Fiance had his two best friends in England (his home) & his two close friends here (in CA). One of his CA BFF’s was my brother and even tho I have another brother, Fiance was strong at keeping his bridal party authentic so he stuck to four.

    Knowing what I know now about my bridal party, I wish I only had 4.

    One of my BMs just unfriended me on FB… yeeeeah. coooool Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    I should have been true to my heart & if I had done that, I would have had 1 Maid/Matron of Honor (Current BFF), 3 BMs, 1 Flower Girl & 1Ring Bearer….

    Keeping it small makes it so much more authentic!  You can have lots of friends but that BFF, love-of-your-life chemistry is really only felt with those special few that deserve to stand next to you & your TRUE love-of-your-life on your wedding day…

     

    Post # 15
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    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We have ten people, not including us–5 BMs, 5 GMs. I refuse to have children in the ceremony, and we aren’t close to any kids anyway. That’s plenty for me.

    FI’s cousin had 9 BMs, 9GMs, two ushers, a flower girl, and a ring bearer. It was too much.

    Post # 16
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    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m planning the big day now… we have 5 groomsmen (IMO still to many) and 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man… Our 4 year old is going to be the best man and no Maid/Matron of Honor

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