Post # 1
Ok, so here’s the deal ~ I have 2 younger sisters. 1 is my maid of honor, the other is going to be listed as a matron of honor. I also have a bff who is my sister-in-law, so she will be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I have my cose friend for ten years as a bridesmaid, and I am also really close with 3 cousins. So that’s 7 girls. I looked at the list over and over again, and I just cannot cut anyone. They are all close to me & I want them up there with me. My Fiance says it’s fine, I shouldn’t be stressed, however I am feeling like it’s going to look like too many.
The place we are getting married is HUGE & grand. So we won’t be squished up there at all. We are having about 175 guests. We both come from pretty big italian families.
I guess I am just freaking out because I don’t want people to think I am trying to be ridiculous with all those BM’s, but I just can’t cut anyone. Also, my Fiance has 3 brothers & some best friends he can’t cut either, so these people are seriously just in our wedding because we love them all.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I don’t think 7 is too many at all! I went to a wedding where there were 13 bridesmaids…that was a bit much. 7 is really not bad.
Post # 4
I had 7! We were fine and our venue didn’t have a ton of space. I was in a wedding as one of 13 – which wasn’t terrible, it just made organizing things extremely difficult. Go with 7!
Post # 5
Whew! OK, thank you for the quick reply. At first I didn’t think it was too much either, but I probably shouldn’t have googled it. LOL I googled it & came upon yahoo answers and the people answered a girls Q on there about having 7 BM’s & 7groomsmen & they were so mean to her! People were saying it’s not a pageant & 7 each is too “showy”. Whatever, I guess I should just be happy that I have 7 close women in my life.
Post # 6
I had 6 girls and Darling Husband had 7 guys – I never thought I’d have such a big wedding party but it was great and it all worked out beautifully. I felt so fortunate to have our nearest and dearest at our sides on our wedding day. It’ll be great!
Post # 7
If you can’t “cut” anyone, then you can’t! I wouldn’t think of 7 as being too many girls, especially with your size wedding. Don’t worry about what other people say. Enjoy spending time with your seven closest girls!
Post # 8
I have 8 girls! I totally understand and I’m really hoping it doesn’t get to be too much to handle. I hope that they can come to an agreement when it comes to showers, and bach. party.
I hope it works out!
Post # 9
I’m having 7 too. My two sisters, FI’s three sisters, and two close friends. At first I was really paranoid about it looking ridiculous, But really, who’s going to judge, especially when the BMs are mostly family. Just embrace it!
But that’s also why we’re not having a head table–between the bridal party and their dates and kids, it would just be silly. 🙂
Post # 10
There’s no right way to do a wedding – just what feels right for you! Good luck! 8)
Post # 11
For some reason I always thought I’d have 3-4 bridesmaid and about 80 guests. I don’t know why I thought this because I’d never really given it serious thought. Then, I got engaged and I started counting up people to invite and making a list of great friends.
I was SHOCKED when my list of great girlfriends had 12 people on it. I finally cut it into my top 7 very closest friends/sister and realize there was no reason on earth I had to cut any of them. There’s not rule about it. I have my sister, friends from college and friends from graduate school and I’m not about to cut that list down because I can’t imagine it any other way.
Same with the guest list, I guess I thought I only had 80 close people to invite but it was super rewarding to tally friends (other than on facebook) and see how many people I have in my life to share the day with.
There’s no wedding police. Do what makes you happiest!
Post # 12
7 is definitely not “too many.” who decides what too many is anyway? i had 6 and there is no one that i could have cut even if i wanted to. on your wedding day, you want the people that you feel closest to around you and if that’s 7 girls, then it’s 7 girls. enjoy!
Post # 13
I don’t think 7 is bad … it’ll be fine. If you are ok managing your group of Bridesmaid or Best Man, there’s no reason you shouldn’t do it.
Darling Husband was in a wedding and he was one for TWENTY Groomsmen – There were literally more than 40 people in the wedding party – they had an hour for pictures after the wedding and I think they got one big group picture, one with just the girls, one with just the guys – and that’s it. It took so long to manage that big of a group!!
Post # 14
Thanks a lot everyone who replied! I appreciate it. This is why I love these boards – everyone is so helpful. I’m feeling much better about my decision now!
Post # 15
No that is perfect! I have a Matron of honor who is a close friend, Maid of honor who has been a friend since I was little, 2 soon to be sister in laws who are bridesmaids and a friend who is a bridesmaid.
Post # 16
I have 8 so don’t beat yourself up about it. What I tell anyone who looks shocked is that my FH and I are very social people who love to have friends around and it would not feel like us if we did not have a big group. This seems to bring smiles to even the most hesitant inquirers.
I say you should have every person that you want with you that day, it is your day so go for it!