- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I need help. My fiance and I both have very large families and a large, close group of friends. Our first list came to about 200 people. We figure we can cut it back to about 150, but that still leaves out people who would be hurt if they weren’t invited, and people who we would like to celebrate with. But we are also both young (students) with a small budget. I don’t want to spend more than $5,000 on the wedding, considering all of the more important things that we can save our money for.
I have thought about eloping, but I really want to be able to celebrate with our family and friends. Both of us are pretty laid back-we don’t need fancy food or decorations (although I want the food that we serve to taste good, there is nothing worse than paying $50 per plate for dry chicken). I don’t need a limo or expensive transportation, and we have pretty much hit the wedding-jackpot as far as people offering to help us out. My mom bought my dress that I love at a sample sale, we have a friend who is an amazing professional photographer and offered to do our photos as a wedding present (although I think we will pay her something). One of my grandmothers is a hairdresser, and the other is a florist. We also have a baker and a graphic design student who have offered their services for cake and invitations.
My problem has been finding somewhere to have it. I can’t seem to find any venues in the area (we are from the springfield, MA area but would be willing to travel just about anywhere in New England for the right venue at the right price). Obviously somewhere with per person pricing is out of the picture at our budget, we need to be able to bring in either an inexpensive caterer, or be able to make it ourselves. I am all for a bbq or simple pasta dinner, I would even be okay with a potluck (maybe), or a dessert and champagne reception.
The only places I have been able to find that allow us to bring in our own food have been public parks (but they don’t allow alcohol, which isn’t exactly a deal braker but is dissapointing) and VFWs/American Legions (I might be cheap, but I still want it to be pretty). Neither of our families have large backyards, but I love the idea of a simple backyard wedding with yard games and just being able to hang out with our families and friends. My Fiance is a musician and has access to speakers and stuff, and I would be fine with using spotify or something for music. I love the idea of a barn wedding as well, but it seems like since that has become popular, venues with barns can be expensive too.
Does anyone know of any wedding venues (or own large backyards/barns that we could borrow) in the western MA or greater southern new england area that fit our needs? Even though we have a small budget, I want everyone to have a good time and just be able to celebrate together.