Post # 1
My cousin was planning a big June California wedding, but she and her fiance got fed up with costs and family drama and are having a courthouse wedding this week.
I go back and forth on what kind of wedding I would like…invite everyone and have a 200 person wedding with all the bells and whistles, a more intimate wedding with less than a hundred people, or even a courthouse wedding with a simple reception following it.
I can see pros and cons to all of them, so I’d like to know what you think!
Was your wedding, or will it be, big or small, and why? Do you have any regrets?
Thank you! 🙂
Post # 3
It doesn’t only have to be big with bells and whistles, small and simple, or courthouse.
For example, we are having a small wedding with all the bells and whistles. It matters more to me to absolutely spoil those very close to me, than to pamper mere acquaintances. It’s taken me a little while to fully let go of the whole Weddings As Popularity Contest notion, but in the end I feel like I am doing the right thing. I am getting the venue I wanted and the food I want. Whereas if I wanted to invite Sorority Pledge Class and Mom’s friends from the office, I would have a less nice venue and probably pizza or barbecue, with a bunch of strangers around. If you are the sort of person who feels like strangers are just friends you haven’t met yet this might be the best option for you, but since I struggle with anxiety, this wasn’t right for me at all.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Ours will be pretty big – we’re inviting ~ 150 people. The cost of feeding and getting drunk all those people sucks, but we’ve been together for a long time – so we can’t imagine finally tying the knot without all our best friends and family there to partake in the celebration. (Oh, and we’re not doing many “bells and whistles” – we’re keeping it very low-key, not fancy, just festive and fun.)